There’s a saying that goes: “If she makes it all about the ring, then she’s not the girl for you.”

But what if the bride-to-be doesn’t like the ring? If it’s not her style, too flashy … or perhaps not flashy enough?

When her boyfriend popped the question, one woman’s excitement quickly dwindled as she caught a glance of the ring. She wrote on Mumsnet:

The first word that entered my head was “small.”

She continued:

There’s nothing to dislike about the type of ring per se, as a diamond solitaire would have been my choice, but it’s the whole thing — the color of the gold, the setting, the small stone and relatively chunky shoulders.

However, as she continued in her post, it appeared as though the poster was truly just underwhelmed by how much her “dear partner” spent on the ring. Having managed to catch a glimpse of the receipt, the woman was disappointed to see that her six-figure-salary partner only paid 1,300 pounds (about $1,685) for it.

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Fretting that her future husband would be disappointed with her for being upset about it, the woman took to Mumsnet to seek the advice of others who may have experienced a similar situation.

She appealed to the forum to ask if she’s being unreasonable to be disappointed in the ring. She worried that:

He’ll be more disappointed in me for making a fuss over it when, in his eyes, it fits and there’s nothing actually wrong with it rather than being disappointed that I’m not truly happy with it.

She added:

As it’s something I’ll be wearing every day and is such a special piece of jewelry I wanted to really love it and I just don’t.

The comments section saw great debate. While the OP was immediately attacked for being ungrateful and unreasonable, she also had some sympathizers.

User SilverySurfer went on the offensive, writing:

Do your BF a favor and give him back the ring — he can give it to the next person he meets who I bet will be far less grabby than you OP. So tacky.

Others called her out for being selfish:

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Others had her back, encouraging her to have a conversation with her fiancé about finding something that’s a bit more her style.

However, they were quick to point out that it’s not the money that should be motivating the ring switch. User robina wrote, “Don’t get hung up on the idea that spending loads of money just because he can shows how much he loves you.”

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The OP hasn’t returned to the ever-growing debate among Mumsnet users, leading fellow commenters to believe that she plucked up some courage and “dragged her fiancé back to the jewelers[.]”

What do you think? Is OP being unreasonable in her disappointment with her engagement ring?

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