A concerned spouse turned to Mumsnet for advice while his pregnant partner adamantly insists on having “a glass of wine or a beer” every other day.

User coldair explained:

“I feel so strongly against it. I really do not understand why any parent would take any risks that could harm their baby or child.

She says I am over reacting and that one drink a day is fine – I’ve found many research papers that disagree with this.”

The user explains that during their first pregnancy, she did have “the odd glass of wine,” meaning “maybe 4 glasses over 9 months.” However, because their firstborn appears to have been born healthy, the user believes that she feels that she can “push harder this time” and test the limits.

One mom attempted to side with the user’s wife, explaining that she drank while pregnant:


Others sympathized with the pregnant wife, saying that the research supports occasional light drinking:


Others believed that the original poster was actually being unreasonable to complain about their wife’s drinking:


However, many Mumsnet users are siding with the original poster, validating their concerns that drinking while pregnant is never a good idea.

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According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC):

“There is no known safe amount of alcohol during pregnancy or when trying to get pregnant. There is also no safe time to drink during pregnancy. Alcohol can cause problems for a developing baby throughout pregnancy, including before a woman knows she’s pregnant. All types of alcohol are equally harmful, including all wines and beer.”

The National Organization on Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (NOFAS) backs up this claim saying that when a pregnant woman drinks alcohol, so does her developing baby.

The CDC recommends that pregnant women or women trying to get pregnant do not drink alcohol in order to prevent fetal alcohol spectrum disorders (FASDs). They write:

“FASDs are completely preventable if a woman does not drink alcohol during pregnancy — so why take the risk?”

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