It can take courage to go get boudoir photos taken, and given the nature of the images, it’s not surprising that one would want them photoshopped until they look like what we see in magazines and ads.

But as one photographer relates, not everyone sees those physical flaws as something that needs to be erased to achieve beauty.

Tonight I want to tell you ladies about a time I messed up really badly. It was back when I first started boudoir, and…

Posted by Victoria Caroline Boudoir on Monday, October 12, 2015

As Scary Mommy reports, Victoria Caroline Haltom of Victoria Caroline Boudoir recently wrote about one of her earlier boudoir customers. The woman, who was in her mid-forties and a voluptuous size 18, wanted to give her husband a series of boudoir shots. But she had one particular request.

“I want you to photoshop all of my cellulite, all of my angry red stretch marks, ALL of my fat, and all of my wrinkles….just make it go away. I want to feel gorgeous just ONCE,” the woman told Haltom.

Haltom did as the woman requested and created a show-stopping album with 30 images of the woman. Three days later, Haltom received an email from the woman’s husband. It wasn’t precisely a complaint. Haltom had done a wonderful job, and that was what he wanted to talk about.

“When I opened the album that she gave to me, my heart sank,” the man wrote. “These pictures… while they are beautiful and you are clearly a very talented photographer…. they are not my wife.”

The problem was that all of the things that reflected their life together and made his wife who she is had been brushed away.

“You made every one of her “flaws” disappear… and while I’m sure this is exactly what she asked you to do, it took away everything that makes up our life. When you took away her stretch marks, you took away the documentation of my children. When you took away her wrinkles, you took away over two decades of our laughter, and our worries. When you took away her cellulite, you took away her love of baking and all the goodies we have eaten over the years.”

The man stressed that he wasn’t upset with the photographer. In fact, he wanted to thank her for the reminder of what his wife really needed from him.

“Seeing these images made me realize that I honestly do not tell my wife enough how much I LOVE her and adore her just as she is. She hears it so seldom, that she actually thought these photoshopped images are what I wanted and needed her to look like. I have to do better, and for the rest of my days I am going to celebrate her in all her imperfectness. Thanks for the reminder.”

The husband isn’t the only one who needs that reminder. No matter who you are, why not take a moment to celebrate the imperfections that make you… well, you.

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