When white mother Stephanie Hollifield adopted her African-American daughter, Haley, she knew that she’d have to educate herself on hair care.

The mom said on her blog that she learned at salons, spoke to friends, and watched YouTube tutorials — but could never get it quite right.

When a teacher sent her a photo of her daughter at school last week, Hollifield said that she “felt like a failure” because it appeared messy.

That’s when she took to Facebook with a plea.

The mother wrote:

Dear Black Friends of Social Media,
This clueless white momma is humbly coming to you to ask your help with Haley’s hair. I have asked my friends. I have asked strangers in Publix with kids with cute hair, and I’m still not getting it. We wash once a week. We do the water, leave in conditioner, oil, and hot towel every morning. We’ve tried more products, no products, less products. We are gentle as can be, but she still requires at least 6 minutes of cuddles after the trauma of her daily hair combing. I feel like it looks great for about an hour or two and then it is tangly and clumpy again. This picture is 3 hours into the day. What am I doing wrong? I have literally bought every product that has been recommended to us. I desperately want to get this right!

The mom said on her blog that she was flooded with messages from dozens of people offering to help.

According to Yahoo Lifestyle, one of them was a mother of three daughters from Georgia, Monica Hunter.

They’d never met before, but the African-American mom was more than willing to help out Haley’s hair.

Hunter went to Hollifield’s home where she went through how to style the 2-year-old’s hair in detail. She even brought products and tools along to help — all while asking for nothing in return.


It was a heartwarming experience for Hollifield, she said on her blog:

Haley’s hair looked adorable, and she kept looking in the mirror while touching her new puffs saying, “So pretty!” She kept hugging me and then hugging her new friend, Mrs. Monica. I don’t think I had ever seen Haley smile so big.

The mom said she’s still learning how to perfectly style her daughter’s hair, but is glad that she found a friend in Hunter. She wrote on Facebook:

“In a time of so much hate and division, our world needs more people like this.”

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