Some people believe a grand gesture is the best way to make up for a relationship mistake. Would this one win you back?
As Mamamia reports, Jose Torres had been caught cheating on his wife and wanted to win her back. Eschewing clichés like flowers or playing Peter Gabriel songs outside her window, Torres decided to go with something far more dramatic — an apology letter in the form of a tattoo.
The tattoo artist shared a photo of Torres’ tattoo on Instagram, later clarifying that he urged Torres to verify the spelling of the tattoo and double-checked that he really wanted to do this:
But the only response I got from him was that he was sure because he mess up and he want it to prove he would change. Even before I started tattooing I ask him again. And about the spelling English is my second language. I have a really hard time with spelling. That’s why always ask the customers to make sure of the spelling.
The tattoo itself began:
I, Jose L. Torres am getting a tattoo voluntarily on January 2, 2019 so that I can earn my wife’s trust back for the pain and suffering I have caused in our marriage.
The tattoo then concluded with a bullet list of Torres’ offenses that took up most of his stomach:
I am a liar, cheater, manipulator, deciever [sic], whore/prostitute lover, dishonest, and disrespectul [sic].
While the tattoo artist couldn’t say whether Torres’ tattoo won back his wife, that didn’t stop people from speculating.
Most commenters felt that — despite the big and painful statement of contrition — the tattoo was destined to backfire. After all, what wife wants to see a letter about being cheated on whenever she looks at her husband’s chest?
“That’s only going to remind her about the s**t that’s been done whenever she sees it, if she’s stupid enough to take him back. So it would have the opposite effect,” one commenter wrote.
Others agreed, pointing out that this was inevitably going to cause women in general to avoid him.
“Great idea to get what you did wrong on your chest so your wife has to be reminded of your s**tty personality every time you take your shirt off,” another commenter added.
There were, however, a few people who gave Torres the benefit of the doubt. Perhaps the tattoo was the best way to show his wife that he was a changed man. One person wrote:
He says he is genuinely sorry. Is that for anyone else to judge? Time will tell between him and his missus. Putting this kind of stuff on social media is perhaps not the best idea [because] it could be better to keep such matters private. Still, wish him and his missus the best. Relationships are very difficult at the best of times.
Another pointed out that this might have been what Torres needed to do to persuade his wife to stay with him:
Seems like this chick wanted a reason to stay and he gave her one. […] At least a shirt can cover this. You can’t cover stupid which seems to be the root cause of a lot Jose’s issues
If nothing else, Torres now has a real conversation starter at pool parties.
What do you think? Was the tattoo a foolish end to a bad marriage, or could it actually save this relationship?