Comedian Steve Harvey isn’t one to hold back, and he may have ruffled a few feathers while publicily defending his wife’s social media post.

The “Family Feud” host and his wife, Marjorie Harvey, were in their home making fresh morning juice when she recorded a post of her husband interfering in the kitchen.

In an Instagram video, which now has over 400,000 views, she used a term usually used to describe a person with intellectual challenges to describe herself.

Marjorie said:

“I’m sitting here arguing with my husband, cause clearly he thinks I’m retarded [and] I don’t know how to cut a beet.”

Some Instagram followers reacted to her use of the word “retarded” and thought her language was inappropriate and offensive to people with mental disabilities.

Commenters wrote:

So the word RETARDED is still being used legally? I thought it was banned. God bless any and all with any type of [disability] All are gifted, beautiful, kind human beings. I shop at thrift shops frequently. I see them there. They are always so kind and cheerful. They make the world a beautiful place.

I am glad [you’re] ok with that word but my son has severe medical needs […] [It’s] not the word itself […] I get that medically my son is retarded but when people use it to say your being so retarded it created this association that people with disabilities are […] less when most actually have to overcome alpt including learning to communicate without a voice or learning to walk without strong muscles

There is another word in the English language that just meant “an ignorant person” yet now is the most hated word… the “R” word is used in a hateful manner as well”

Many felt the “R word” aroused anger and provoked the same reaction as the public use of the “N word.” However, Steve saw things differently and defended his wife in his own post.


He said, in part:

What you trippin bout cause my wife said the word retarded…. it’s a word, ain’t it? and she ain’t talking bout nobody but herself to me […] She [ain’t] saying it bout [nobody’s] baby.

I don’t ever comment but [d*mn] is you just looking for something to be pissed off about […]

This isn’t the first time Steve Harvey has sparked backlash on social media. In January people took issue with Harvey’s racist joke about Asian men. He mocked a book, titled “How to Date a White Woman: A Practical Guide for Asian Men.”

On “The Steve Harvey Show” he jokingly said:

“‘Excuse me, do you like Asian men?’ [He suggested the book should read] ‘No, thank you.'”

Harvey went on:

“I don’t even like Chinese food, boy. I don’t stay with you no time. I don’t eat what I can’t pronounce.”

Harvey later tweeted an apology.

However, Marjorie said that when it comes to her, Steve won’t back down.



She wrote:

I tried to stop him…but ya’ll know he crazy and don’t play about me.

Should the Harveys apologize to fans for Marjorie’s seemingly unintentional offensive comment? Or is fan outrage over the “R word” an overreaction?

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Tiffani is a writer for Dearly. She is from New York City. Prior to working for Dearly she covered fashion news and managed social media for various digital media outlets.

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