A 26-year-old mom took to Reddit for advice after noticing her husband had a stronger relationship with one of his daughters than the other.
The mother wrote in a post that she recently welcomed a baby girl with her husband, but he had a 4-year-old daughter who “was unplanned and with his ex wife who he despises.”
She explained that she views his 4-year-old as her own, but he treats his children differently:
My husband is over the moon about [the baby]. He dotes on her, he loves her like crazy. He said that he had no idea he can love someone so much. He said that he never felt this way about his other daughter and has a lot of resentment.
The Reddit user said her husband often gets irritated at his eldest daughter and seems “annoyed by the normal kid stuff she does.”
The mom said she was unsure if this was normal and asked what she should do. One Reddit user answered:
You should encourage your husband to seek therapy to work through his feelings before he does real emotional damage to his older daughter because she will absolutely notice that she is treated differently from her sister.
She said that was good advice and later wrote an update to her original post.
In the update, the mother said that she sent the 4-year-old to therapy and got some insight into how the little girl was feeling about her relationship with her father.
The therapist asked her how her daddy makes her feel and what her favorite memory with him is. She said sad, and that she didn’t have any memories with him. I shared this with him and it cut him deep…but he needed to be.
The mom said her husband made an immediate change after hearing what his daughter had to say. She wrote:
He has done a complete 180 since this day. He takes the time to do something special with her every day. He tries to bond with her. He seems to enjoy her company. And what’s more, is her behavior has improved as well. She feels more loved and accepted by him and it makes a huge difference for her.
Thankfully, it seems the father and daughter are on the way to mending their bond.
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