When customers first walk into the Monterey, California restaurant named “Old Fisherman’s Grotto,” they are greeted by a hostess stand, and on that stand is a sign.


According to a photo on Yelp, the sign reads:




Children crying or making loud noises are a distraction to other diners, and as such are not allowed in the dining room

The woman who posted the photo, Dianna G. said the sign is the reason why she will no longer be dining at that restaurant:

The reason I will never be back. Posted discrimination.

Another mom, who saw the sign on Yelp before honoring her reservation there, told Fox 11 that she canceled her reservation because of the warning, even though her child wasn’t going to be with her.

She explained:

“The sign is discriminating toward any children who need a booster seat and younger no matter what…  I also feel it’s the wording, it’s not nice at all. Maybe ‘adults only’ would be more understandable.”

Dearly reached out to parents on Facebook to see what they thought of the sign.

Here is what some of them had to say:

Seems legit to me!!! as a father of 4 i can’t stand when people bring there loud ass kids out to quiet places. i didn’t do i when my kids were young out of respect for others. and not wanting to be “that guy”!

People it’s a restaurant! I love my kids and grandkids but if I’m out with friends it’s nice to have a place that I don’t have to hear screaming, whining or child noises. It nice to have a place that is quiet and relaxing.

An elegant restaurant where people go to have an intimate dinner with a companion is no place for distracting noise, be it children or babies. There are plenty of family restaurants to choose from, save the top scale restaurant for a time when you can get a sitter for the children.

Didn’t it used to be common manners if your kids became a loud or disruptive in a fine dining establishment. You as a parent removed them. This sign wouldn’t have been needed. I miss those days when people cared about others.

A person chooses to eat in a restaurant. This is the restaurants rules and all patrons should respect them. I personally hate to be in a restaurant and have my evening ruined by screaming kids and or wandering children while parents ignore their behavior.

If parents would teach their children how to behave in public maybe this wouldn’t be necessary. Just sayin.

I don’t see anything wrong with it. It’s their business to do what they want. There are other places to eat.

Nothing wrong with this! It’s like when parents take babies to the movies. WHY do they do that? All they do is cry.

When I go out to eat, I want a nice relaxing meal with conversation. If there are noisy children there it is impossible to do that. If parents can’t control their kids, then they should go to Burger King or McDonalds.

The owner of the restaurant, Chris Shake, told Fox 11 that he’s not sorry about the sign, adding that it has actually been good for his business.

He explained:

“We have many families who dine with us with their children who are well behaved and understand our policy with respect to other diners. What we have found on those who write negative reviews about our policy are those who have not dined here but become offended by the sign and our policy,”

Shake also said that the language of the sign, which has been up for years, was approved by a lawyer despite many calling it discrimination.

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18 Replies to “Parents React to a Restaurant’s No ‘Crying’ or ‘Loud Noises’ Rule — Most of Them Fully Support It”

  • Chrissy 2 years ago

    I find the sign offensive and would not support this establishment. I was a single Mother of 5 children and took them to different types of restaurants. The rule was always the same, you don’t behave, we leave. Only took one time. I don’t understand how booster seats or high chairs offend other diners. Tell the truth on your sign “We don’t like loud, unruly children. Please leave the dining area to respect the other diners if your child has a problem.” No strollers, no high chairs, no booster seats? How is that even accommodating to well behaved children?

    • Anonymous 2 years ago

      Grow up

    • DRae 2 years ago

      Yeah, but when you were a single mother of 5 children did you take them to restaurants that cost $50 a plate?

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    I agree with the restaurant owner, kids can be a distraction at times. In respect to all of the patrons, he decided not to allow children in the dining room. It should be up to the owner to set the rules in his or her establishment. When our children were young we would take them to family restaurants and there are many to choose from. On occasion my husband and I would have an ‘adult’ night out which included dining at a nice restaurant. It was a break from the kids and a time to reconnect with each other. In today’s world everything is ‘offensive’ and my ‘rights’ are being violated. Are there no parameters any longer? Actually I’m a bit tired of hearing the word ‘right’s’. What about having respect and common sense? Is that not a ‘right’ shared by all?

    • Sharon 2 years ago

      Ever nicely said. When you want a nice evening and leave your children at home you sure don’t want to hear some one else’s crying or loud children.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    I don’t see a problem with it, so what.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    I agree. Kids that don’t behave should be left at home.

    • Anonymous 2 years ago

      Kids will never learn how to act, unless you take them with you. So… yes.. I do have a problem with that sign.

      • Anonymous 2 years ago

        You can certainly teach kids in a family restaurant to prepare for a different establishment. Don’t start in the deep end when learning to swim.

  • Jayne Hedrick 2 years ago

    I would be a frequent customer because of the sign. Get a babysitter and leave your kids at home. I don’t want to hear or see them while I’m having a quiet dinner and trying to carry on a conversation with other adult friends.

  • Jen 2 years ago

    I love it! When I would dine at nice places w my sis in law, her kid was a terror, she would sit at other peoples tables, run around and scream. She tripped a waiter carrying food and ended up burning herself in their kitchen. My daughter, who was a few months older, would sit quietly and be annoyed w her cousin. In the end we stopped dining w them. Some people can let their kids be so rude. I fully support the restaurant and wish there was one closer to me that was like this. I never allowed my child to behave like that in public and I am not interested in hearing or seeing other kids misbehaving.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    I agree with the sign. If someone doesn’t like it go to Chuck E Cheese

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  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    I am sorry but growing up with 3 older siblings we was always loud! I find this a total disgrace to ban children and babies from a public place to eat! If you want it your way then make it a private and dress code related!! I sure hell Will bring my kids to eat where I want when I want and nobody is going to stop me from doing that!!

    Because its your loss of business not mine because there are other places that will take my family in to eat at their business!

  • patty eaves 2 years ago

    please, absolutely nothing wrong with this. common sense isnt so common anymore obviously. i have a child & he KNEW how to behave in a restaraunt (of any kind)—you have to actually be a parent & teach them these things. i certainly dont want to listen to some brat screaming & such when i am out for a nice dinner (and i sure as hell wouldnt allow my child to misbehave–that calls for a trip to the car for a “last chance” to be respectful of others & behave appropriately). leave the brats at home or go to mcdonalds….smh

  • Dave 2 years ago

    I think policy is very fair, if you do not like the policy eat some place else!

  • Me 2 years ago

    As a mother of six i agree with the sign when we go out as a family i find a family friendly restaurant where people expect kids to be there but when my husband and i go out to a nice restaurant with out the kids i don’t really want to hear other kids screaming

  • LilyR 9 months ago

    If parents gave the same consideration to other diners as they do to their “special snowflakes” there would be no need for notices like this. Unfortunately some people appear to lose any consideration for others as soon as they have a child & believe that child is beyond reproach….(try telling the parents the kid isn’t behaving appropriately & watch the fireworks).
    Children are a lifestyle choice & as a long time misophonia sufferer I really don’t want to hear their squealling for long periods of time.

    If your child can’t sit still, eat at home or get a take out.
    If your child can’t stop screaming in restaurants they’re probably too young to be there, take them outside to calm them down or leave them at home with a sitter.

    Just because you chose to have a child it doesn’t mean you get a pass on manners & consideration.

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