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‘You’re Here Again:’ Pregnant Mom of 3 Claims She Left OBGYN in Tears After She’s Shamed for Having More Kids

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Recently, a mother of three found out she was pregnant again.

But when Stephanie Yang shared her exciting news during a recent OBGYN check-up, she said she left her appointment in tears after her nurse’s response.

The 27-year-old took to Facebook to vent her frustrations after her visit to Dr. Camilla L. Marquez’s office. Yang told The Fresco Bee a nurse practitioner allegedly shamed her for her fourth pregnancy. 

Posted by Toonie Yang on Friday, December 28, 2018

Yang claims that she was met with “disdain” and “judgment” last week when she sought prenatal care at the Fresno office. Yang explained:

“The first thing she said is, ‘You’re here again’ and I was embarrassed.”

She continued:

“[I said] ‘Yes, I am, but this will be our last baby.’”

The nurse practitioner allegedly responded:

“’Well, you said that last time, didn’t you?’ and ‘You do realize that children are a big responsibility.'”

In a Facebook video published Saturday the mom, who is a teacher, said:

“The worst experience of my life.

A baby is a blessing no matter what, but that’s not how I felt after this recent appointment.”

Watch the video below:

Mothers say OBGYN nurse shamed them for pregnancies

Stephanie Yang and other Fresno mothers are speaking out against a nurse at Dr. Camilla Marquez's office, who they say shamed them during their pregnancies. Story -> https://bit.ly/2CPNaz7

Posted by The Fresno Bee on Friday, January 4, 2019

The video prompted several other patients to share about alleged similar experiences at the practice.

On Yelp and Facebook, some women also wrote about their “horrible experience” with staff at the office.

One woman named, Michelle Medina, told the Bee, she had experienced two miscarriages when she was treated by the nurse in question. During a visit, she was reportedly scorned for her weight. Medina said:

“She made my losses feel like they were my fault for being ‘obese.’ When I was a little overweight, not obese.”

Yahoo reached out to Marquez for comment. Her spokesperson declined to speak about the allegations.

Yang has since changed doctors she said:

“Whether it’s my sixth child or my first child, I think we’re all important.

Every mother is important no matter how many babies she’s had before. I think that we’re meant to feel special and cared about.”

One commenter supporting Yang on Facebook said the pregnant mother didn’t need a lecture.

She was looking for an OBGYN, not a counselor.

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  1. How horrible! You should ask her why she seems to have a problem with that. Children ARE a gift from God! Does the Doctor know the way she is treating her patient’s?

  2. May God Bless You Hold You Keep You,your beautiful gift you have is a beautiful soul keeping your heart alive and well. You are so Blessed! Keep praying and keep that in mind some people are selfish and bitter , don’t let them steal your love and happiness away from you and your husband. Smile and look forward to your beautiful baby! I pray that you will not ever be sad again!

  3. The other woman that stated, “She made my losses feel like they were my fault for being ‘obese.’ When I was a little overweight, not obese.” She might have been obese. Obese means 25 pounds or more overweight. They keep wanting to change this to mean 100 pounds or something insane. I do not know if she was obese or not, just stating a fact that most people do not know. Yes, people in the medical field can be a little harsh.

  4. If someone at an ob/gyn had spoken to my wife like that during any of the times she was carrying our children they would be waking up on the floor with their jaw broken, IDGAF if you’re Male or female. You don’t say some shit like that to an expectant mother. This PoS needs fired.

    • You’re the pos if you would even Think
      Of busting someone’s jaw you
      Fuckn illiterate bastard.
      YOU of all people should never
      Procreate.
      Climate change, pollution of all kinds
      Are a direct result of overpopulation.
      Keep your incompetent dick in your
      Pants 👖 where it belongs.

      • Love how you make yourself anonymous while you are trashing someone else. What a peach you are! YOU are the fucking POS bastard. Oh and by the way, if you are going to be ignorant enough to trash someone learn to fucking write correctly. I would punch the nurse also and you for being an ignorant twat waffle!!

    • I actually just read an article today about how US women aren’t having enough babies for the next generation of people. So it sounds like you’re the uneducated idiot.

  5. In this day and age, with climate change, air pollution and dwindling natural resources, it is downright irresponsible to have more than one or possibly two children.
    It just IS!!!
    If one child policies are not mandated globally, it’ll be our demise/doubtful absolutely.
    This lady is polluting our already strained
    Planet 🌎
    Immoral uneducated idiots 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • Since there is no such thing as climate change your comment is null and void. Air pollution? China is the worst polluter & they have a 1 child policy. Again, comment null and void. Gee, you would hate me, I have 3 children. There is no chance we as a population will destroy this planet. It has been around for billions of years; our tiny time here will not destroy it. Please, in your tiny liberal brain (hey, if you are going to insult people, you should be able to take it) try to imagine a billion years, much less a million.

    • Here the US does most everything it can with regards to climate change which has been happening for a billion uears or more BTW, you wanna brow beat? Do it in CHINA IRAQ OR INDIA ETC where they dont give a F about pollution .funny nothing stoos them from having children, starving populations in third world countrys. kids galore. At least her kids may grow to be doctors and patients whom treat the less fortunate, but i digress-

    • Climate change, more like the planet earth is exiting an ice age, when we start going into the next ice age are you going to scream climate change again. Science has proven that the earth has entered and exited multiple ice ages, welcome to the most recent.

    • I actually just read an article today about how US women aren’t having enough babies for the next generation of people. So it sounds like you’re the uneducated idiot.

    • Christine Margo…if you feel that way, I have a great idea! How about taking yourself off this “polluted, dwindled resource” planet! This is NOT communist China where you’re only allowed 1or 2 children at best, preferably boys, where they have killed baby girls by the thousands..it still haunts me of a picture I saw many years ago in Life magazine of a tiny pink bundled baby girl under a tree, in the forest in China, left to die or prey to animals…except a journalist stumbled on this baby and rescued her…YOU are the immoral, inhuman liberal idiot!

  6. Imagine telling a mother of three that children are a big responsibility – Duh? Why is an OB-GYN complaining of more business? My mother had six.

    ” What, pregnant again ? You must think you’re Irish”

  7. SHE NEEDS TO BE FIRED, IT IS NONE OF HER BUSINESS HOW MANY CHILDREN YOU HAVE AND I BELIEVE AFTER 3 YOU KNOW ABOUT RESPONSIBILLTY. YOU SHOIULD HAVE SLAPPED HER ACROSS THE FACE. THE NERVE OF HER.

  8. The nurse should never have said that to her and should not be in this occupation! The Mom should hold her head high though and not be ashamed. It’s her life and as long as she can provide love and care for her kids, it’s no one’s business. Get tough, Mama!

  9. When i was pregnant with my third, i was scheduling my c section and my doctor came out in the lobby asking if i was going to get my tubes tied, in front of the whole office, i mean my face turned all shades of red, i also get the wow, you started young, im miscarried my 4 in September and working on the next lol.. but i do find myself saying this is my last . I dont know why women are shamed after they have 2 to 3 children , im not aware of the limit

  10. not sure of circumstances but I would assmume she is aware of this lady’s personal life. And may have been harsh but there is more to having babies than just bringing them into the world, you need to be able to afford to raise them , educate , ect…. which unless your wealthy 2 or 3 kids will keep you strapped.I see it all the time familys on welfare with 4 plus kids…easy to do on someone else’s dime! Not to speak of our poor planet being well beyond capacity.

    • Hey…..I have 4 kids and we are far from wealthy. We were never on assistance, nor did we try. We both worked and did just fine, so I would say your logic is askew

    • that is a self righteous attitude. And you are not the boss of people. so get overself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Still it is not the nurse practitioners place. The mother to be is not there for her advice she was there for her medical knowledge. I am sure that really, if she wanted her opinion, she would ask for it.

  11. I come from a Family of ten. I can’t even imagine life without any of my siblings. Please don’t let this person destroy the happiness of bringing a child into the world. There are people out there that can’t have children, I had three and would of had more if I hadn’t gotten sick. The birth of a child is the most joyous thing. So sorry that this happened to you, you need to let your Doctor know and she should be reprimanded. Just enjoy your babies while they are little because they grow up to fast.

  12. That nurse practitioner should be fired immediately! ANYONE in that office who treats women like crap should be fired or shut down that practice! And SHAME on the doctor(s) who run this clinic for allowing this!!

  13. If you can afford children and want them, you should have as many as you like!
    If you cannot afford them, and are receiving Public Assistance than you should not!
    It is that simple!
    It is not fair for tax-payers who put off EVER having children or can only afford 1 or 2 (but would love
    to have more), but are forced to pay their own bills and everyone else’s!

    Blessings to your family!

  14. I got talked to like that by a doctor’s office. I have many many health problems and when I go I have to talk with the staff. Even though I got the your here again. I said well I waited to see how I would do. I just don’t care what people say. I have to do what I have to do to keep myself healthy. I always wanted to have children but I have had blood clots in my lungs and I would be high risk. So I have a dog and he’s my child for now. I would love to have more dogs but I would love to have a house

  15. Wow, as a mom of 7 all I have to say is that’s none of the Dr’s business. Just because 2 or 3 kids is norm today doesn’t mean that there aren’t couples out there who want a bigger family! I wish the Mom wouldn’t have felt the need to say “but this is our last!” You don’t need to justify the size of your family to anyone. I guess if you’re on welfare and other people are basically paying for your kids then yes you might feel the need to not have so many. My husband who has his master’s degree was always able to support us and I was fortunate to be able to be a stay-at-home mom. We always knew we wanted more than the norm. All of our kids were delivered by the same OB/GYN and although he and his wife only had 2 children, he never said a word, but always greeted me with enthusiasm. Our children are all raised, college educated and married now with children of their own. They absolutely still love all being together for holidays, picnics and birthday celebrations. There are 27 of us now and we have a ball together. It’s sad that people think of children as a burden instead of as a blessing. If you can afford to care for them, then it’s nobody else’s business how big your family is. God bless……

  16. Looks like a beautiful family to me. She must not know the meaning of family and she definitely shouldn’t be working there because she obviously isn’t happy.

  17. Someone who supports pregnancy shouldn’t be saying things like that to her or any woman. God gave us the gift of having a family! I came from a family of 9 children and my husband 6 children. I only had two beautiful children! But before them I had their sister still born. I still celebrate Samantha that was her name! She was a blessing and now an angel! I have three going on four grandchildren. My youngest daughter was told she’ll never have kids and now she has two! But the obgyn she had was just like that, trying to embarrass her. She came home in tears and I was so angry! I went to her next appointment and my daughter introduced me to this doctor and she wouldn’t have dared said anything with me there! Because believe me she would have lost so much money with my raising hell and telling her patients just what kind of damn doctor they were trusting! My oldest daughter and grandson almost died due to a doctor like that too! So believe me you have to stand up and make it known that you matter and your children matter! Anyone of you bigots that don’t care about your kids or grandchildren then so be it, I could careless your opinions and only love for others count!!!

  18. People need to learn to mind their own business. That nurse practitioner must be a very unhappy woman to want to try to make others feel bad. I have six children and couldn’t imagine my life without any of them from my eldest who is 31 to my youngest who is 10. The woman who was made to feel as though miscarriages were her fault deserves an apology and whoever made her feel that way needs to be fired. It’s not okay to blame the mother for such a terrible thing, many extremely obese women have healthy children, there was no basis for her to even suggest her weight was a cause. I’m sorry for her heartbreak, find a new doctor please.

  19. The nurse practioner was very unprofessional. She does not get to decide hiw many children the patient should have. Perhaps the patient was receiving Medicaid or some other governmental assistance program. The nurse might have thought she should not have anymore if others support them. I just visited a medical provider today and the consult room was filthy. It was a horrible experience.

  20. I think that was very wrong of her to treat you that way. Baby’s are a gift from god and she had no right to judge you for brand new baby in this world with your precious gift she’s not going to raise him so why is she telling you how many children you have I would talk to her supervisor because that was very rude I’m glad I can’t have kids arrive would go there and it probably tell her off I’m sorry that’s not right I’m very happy that you’re having another baby and don’t stop at four if you guys want to big family just because of what she said I come from a family of seven God bless your family and you keep having them as many as you want don’t let somebody put you down and be happy you’re having a new baby you’re a blessing

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