A mother with three children under the age of 4 was thrilled to share her pregnancy news online but wasn’t expecting to get shamed for it.

Anna Strode said she had never heard about pregnancy shaming until she announced that she and her husband are expecting their fourth child.

In a recent Instagram post the Aussie mom wrote:

I had absolutely no idea that ‘pregnancy shaming’ existed until, I announced we had baby #4 on the way.

The small timeframe in which the couple decided to expand their family prompted criticism on social media. The mom said she’s been judged and has received some rude comments from followers questioning why she chose to have another baby.

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I had absolutely no idea that "pregnancy shaming" existed until, I announced we had baby #4 on the way. You may have noticed I've been a little quite on Instagram the last 7 or so months. I've been busy and sick but also a little anxious when posting. Why?! Because over the past 7 months I have been criticised, judged and blatantly questioned why we have chosen to have another baby. I've had comments and inbox messages saying all sorts of things from "wow, surely you're not pregnant AGAIN ?" to "STOP HAVING BABIES" to people asking if I don't believe in contraception and making rude comments about our children being so close in age and that I won't enjoy them. So to be clear… Yes – I do believe in contraception, I was on it for manyyyyyy years. YES this baby WAS planned. We actually tried for a few months before successfully falling pregnant. And YES, I thoroughly enjoy my children even though they are close in age. I LOVE it in fact! I always wanted 4 children. For as long as I can remember, 4 just seemed like the number for me. I also all imagined them being close in age. I was blessed that my husband wanted the same. I never imagined that doing what my hubby and I wanted to do, would upset so many people or affect them in anyway. I mean, I don't understand why us having another baby would worry anyone so much? Anyone would think I asked the "pregnancy shamers" to wake all night and feed my baby, change dirty nappies, entertain my toddlers. But no, nothing will change for them so why the negativity towards me and my families choices?! I've decided some people are just negative and that's that… you can't please everyone. Be kind people, please be kind ✨ Has anyone else ever experienced pregnancy shaming?! #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodunfiltered #momlife #pregnancy #mumsofinstagram

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Some people were even bold enough to ask Strode about her birth control methods. She explained:

I’ve had comments and inbox messages saying all sorts of things from ‘wow, surely you’re not pregnant AGAIN’ to ‘STOP HAVING BABIES’ to people asking if I don’t believe in contraception.

However, the Australian mother revealed that she and her husband wanted to fill their home with four children, yet she’s constantly shamed for it. Strode told Scary Mommy:

“I have even avoided going to certain cafes or shops because of being afraid of the comments that come with it.”

She continued:

“I do remind myself to always be positive and not worry about what others think but I get sick of having to justify our situation and explain that this is EXACTLY how we wanted things to go.”

As previously reported by Dearly, more and more moms have been speaking out against pregnancy shaming after having to defend having more children.

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You are already so incredibly loved little one ❤️ I've had lots of questions since announcing a brand new little babe is on its way so I thought it would be good to fill you all in Yes, this baby WAS planned. We were actually trying for a few months and after not falling pregnant I started to think I must not be ovulating even though my period returned 10 months post Madi. I thought I would probably have to stop breastfeeding in order to fall pregnant and I wasn't ready to do that. Anyway, turns out I was just ovulating REALLY late in my cycle meaning we were missing the fertile window. I used ovulation tests to work this out for anyone wondering.. Yes, you CAN fall pregnant while breastfeeding. As soon as baby starts solids and sleeping longer periods at night your chances will increase. Of course some people even fall pregnant when exclusively breastfeeding. Yes, I've been suffering ALL day sickness. Whoever came up with the phrase 'morning sickness' clearly hasn't had babies ? I've spent the majority of the last nine weeks parenting from the toilet bowl. It's been hard. So incredibly HARD but totally worth it. I know this will pass. Everything is a phase. My diet and exercise has gone to SH*T… I will do a seperate post on that but there's no sugar coating it… 1st trimester has completely thrown me off track health wise… there's been a few too many trips to Mc Donald's drive thru ??? #truth #cheeseburgercravings My head has been completely ALL over the place. I've been doing the stupidest things and finding it so incredibly hard to hide this bubba as my belly literally popped the second the test read positive! Hence all the baggy tops in my videos and radio silence ?? I'm bigger now at 13 weeks than what I was at 18 weeks with TWINS… someone help me out, that's normal for a 4th baby right?!?! ? Anyways, It feels GREAT to finally announce and I'm so excited to share this pregnancy with you. Any other q's?! Just ask ❤️️?

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Strode wrote:

I never imagined what doing what my hubby and I wanted to do, would upset so many people or affect them in anyway.

However, the mother of 3-year-old twins and 1-year-old daughter shut down critics by saying, yes her baby was planned, but she shouldn’t have to explain this to strangers.

Strode is 7-weeks-pregnant and said she’s excited to share her baby news.

About the author

Tiffani is a writer for Dearly. She is from New York City. Prior to working for Dearly she covered fashion news and managed social media for various digital media outlets.

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8 Replies to “Expecting Mom With 3 Kids Under Four Calls out Pregnancy Shamers After She’s Told to ‘Stop Having Babies’”

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    have as many kids as you want and can support, ignore them nasty people and have a happy life

  • Jerry Brown 2 years ago

    Good for you. Keep it up.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    As long as you and your husband want this baby, support it, take care of it and love it more power to you. It’s really no d–ned bodies business whether you have 1 or 10 more. Congratulations to you and your family.

  • Chrissy 2 years ago

    We never had “shaming” anything until social media created it. Body shaming, breastfeeding shaming, pregnancy shaming, prom dress shaming, homeschool shaming, you name it. It used to be called “being rude”. Now because it has a PC name it’s a thing. Let’s go back to “mind your own business”. I had five kids in 8 years. There were some whispers, but that was before social media invited people be Gladys Kravitz with a computer or phone. Ignore everyone.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    No body else’s business but your own,unless your a shit parent and abuser,otherwise love them up!

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    I am #6 of eight kids. It was GREAT growing up with so many siblings. Always had a someone to play hide & seek, cowboys & Indians, board games, go fishing or build forts with. Parents were not rich, but we didn’t lack for anything. Have as many as you want and raise them with love.

  • Margie Best 2 years ago

    God told those on the ark to multiply the world again so they did. What’re wrong with it?e

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    This is nothing new in the70’s your whole family growing up was effected because of having 6 of us

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