Nicole Kidman, best known for her Academy Award-worthy performances in “The Hours” and “Lion,” has now been hitched to country singer Keith Urban for 11 years. But her current seemingly picture-perfect marriage isn’t her first go at a long-term relationship.
Before Urban, she was married to Tom Cruise for over 10 years and was in long-term relationships with several men, including Lenny Kravitz.
For some people, serial monogamy might sound like one big headache or the least fun way to date, but Kidman actually finds it to be fulfilling.
In a recent interview with InStyle Australia, the “Big Little Lies” actress revealed exactly why that is:
“I’ve always chosen to have really deep, intense romantic relationships. I don’t dabble.”
She continued, saying she didn’t choose to be that way; rather that’s how she was born:
“That’s who I am, and my mother’s always said it: ‘You’re just a child who attaches.'”
And judging by her happiness with her husband, her monogamous tendencies seem to have served her well:
Although her schedule as a working actress, combined with Urban’s hectic musician calendar, isn’t especially conducive to marriage, the two have always made things work.
During the 2017 Cannes Film Festival, Vanity Fair pointed out that when the couple gets any time together — even on the red carpet — they make it count.
As the pair embraced, Urban was seen whispering in Kidman’s ear, and whatever he said brought tears to her eyes.
She looked at him in admiration, dried her eyes, and stayed glued to his side for the remainder of the carpet.
Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban had an emotional moment on the Festival de Cannes red carpet last night ❤️
Posted by The Hollywood Reporter on Tuesday, May 23, 2017
During a 2016 press event, Kidman shared the one piece of advice to keep a marriage strong:
“Just love. Just love each other, lavish each other with love. Also we just happen to like each other too. That works.”
And in a previous interview with CBS, Urban also said they swap out the cards and flowers for something more meaningful:
“We just work at it. We love each other and we work at it. It’s beautiful work.”
Although long-term relationships might seem like too much work to some, Kidman sees it as not only the way she was born to love but also the way she chooses to be loved.