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New Mom Stopped Using the Word ‘Busy’ Because She Refuses to Be ‘Frantic’ Over What Should Be ‘Fun’

New Mom Stopped Using the Word ‘Busy’ Because She Refuses to Be ‘Frantic’ Over What Should Be ‘Fun’

First-time mother and blogger, Jenna Kutcher, told her followers she’s stopped using the word “busy” to describe her long to-do list following the birth of her daughter, Conley, in December.

In a recent Instagram post, Kutcher said her new season of motherhood has been filled with many wonderful surprises, but finding time to slow down in life and enjoy the moment can be a challenge.

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“So, what does your husband do?” 🤦🏼‍♀️ That’s the question I get asked the most after I tell people what I do… and I always have to smile when it comes, because it seems that sometimes it’s hard to imagine women as the breadwinner. I’m so thankful I married a man who isn’t afraid of a strong woman. 👋🏻 My husband? Well, he supports me, co-parents little Conley, runs the house, pays the bills, walks the dogs, grocery shops, manages our properties, and makes sure I eat food everyday. Basically, he keeps me alive so I can keep showing up in the world for you. 💑 We’ve never shied away from the fact that we aren’t in a “traditional” marriage. I haven’t vacuumed in over seven years, I’ve been banished from the kitchen because I’m “too messy” and as I type this, Drew is doing the laundry. 👚 He loves us so well and none of this could happen without him. So here’s to all the partners, cheerleaders, spouses, and supporters who are making things run behind the scenes, sending encouraging texts when we need that extra motivation, and pushing us to be our best. 📣 I couldn’t do any of this without you (and no one makes vacuuming look as sexy as you do, @kickingitwithkutch!) Tag your biggest cheerleader below!

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As Kutcher contemplates on life as a mother and what it means to be “busy,” she’s developed a new outlook and shared it with readers last month, she wrote:

We’ve used ‘busy’ as a badge of honor for a long time and part of us equates busyness to success.

A friend prompted Kutcher’s social media and “Good Morning America” post one morning when she asked if she wanted to get breakfast and her immediate thought was, “I can’t get breakfast on a weekday. I have a little baby and I need to get work done and I am just too busy.”

The wife and mom explained:

Come to think of it, very few things in life truly are urgent and my business shouldn’t be one of them. Isn’t that why I started it in the first place?

I’m settling into this new normal, embracing the fact that balance doesn’t exist, becoming a nap time warrior and enjoying the slowdown.

I refuse to be frantic over what was supposed to be fun. The only thing that’s urgent is my ability to be present and that’s something I’m happy to get busy being.

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I’m not “SOOOO busy.” I sat down with one of my best friends this morning for breakfast and we talked for hours. I didn’t start work until after noon and I was okay with it. She asked me, “Are you sooo busy” right now? And part of me wanted to say yes. Because we’ve used “busy” as a badge of honor for a long time and part of us equates busyness to success. I smiled and said, “Actually, nothing in my life is urgent right now. Everything can wait.” It can wait for afternoon snuggles or diaper changes, it can wait for coffee dates or a long walk, it can wait for a nap or a chapter in a book… it all can wait. Come to think of it, very few things in life truly are urgent and my business shouldn’t be one of them. Isn’t that why I started it in the first place? I’m settling into this new normal, embracing the fact that balance doesn’t exist, becoming a nap time warrior and enjoying the slow down. I refuse to be frantic over what was supposed to be fun. The only thing that’s urgent is my ability to be present and that’s something I’m happy to get busy being… Happy Friday, loves. ❤️ #thekutchercasa

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Kutcher continued her discussion on GMA’s site. She wrote:

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This new season of motherhood has encouraged a slowdown. Work can wait. Texts can wait. Emails can wait. I can feel purpose without pressure. It can wait for afternoon snuggles or diaper changes, it can wait for coffee dates or a long walk, it can wait for a nap or a chapter in a book … it all can wait.

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Raise your hand if you’re the reason my body has changed… (Conley slowly lifts her tiny hand.) 👋🏻 Along with my changed body, my mind has also changed. I thought I’d wear one pieces for the rest of my life… I planned to hide post-baby and only semi-show up! It’s easy to do that online isn’t it? 👙 For some reason I thought that having a baby would “ruin” my body and with messaging about getting your “body back” post baby and strangers filling my DMs offering diet plans and pills, it’s easy to understand why. 🤰🏼 I wasn’t sure how I would feel in my skin, didn’t know if I’d want to hide the loose skin, extra pounds, stretch marks or my boobs that are two different sizes, but I’ve never been more proud of this body that I hid for years. 💁🏼‍♀️ I’m wearing it all with pride because I want to recognize I’m a walking miracle who is strong and resilient and scarred and flawed but proud and beautiful. Why are you hiding? ✨ Oh and for the record, I’m not worried about getting my “body back” because frankly I never lost it. #postpartumbody #7weekspostpartum #aeriereal

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After struggling to carry babies full-term, following two miscarriages within three years, Kutcher now just wants to enjoy her new journey.

However, she said becoming a mom shouldn’t be an excuse for being “too busy” for the things and people she loves.

What do you think about Kutcher’s personal motto?

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