New Hampshire mom Jennifer Meade wanted to celebrate Valentine’s Day with her two children and boyfriend, so they headed to a local community center for a dance.

The mom paid $30 for two couples tickets to the father-daughter dance at the Carter Community Building Association. One for her and her 7-year-old son and another for her boyfriend and 5-year-old daughter, according to Valley News.

But just 20 minutes into the dance, Meade and her son were asked to leave. The mom was upset and confused, she explained:

“It’s not like anyone was uncomfortable that I was there. I wasn’t taking away from anyone’s experience being there.”

She said CCBA wasn’t being inclusive of non-traditional families and should let mothers dance with their sons too.

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Meade told Valley News:

“In this day and age, it’s not like your gender should define what type of parent you really are. I don’t understand why I have to be a dad to celebrate Valentine’s Day with my kids.”

CCBA Executive Director Shelby Day said that the mom wasn’t kicked out of the recreation center, but asked to move to another area where mothers usually go during the dance.

She explained:

“(Meade) was not kicked out. She was encouraged to remain in the building and to hang out in our game room downstairs. It’s a father-daughter dance. That is what this (event) is about.”

She said the staff sold the mom tickets possibly believing it may have been for another male family member. Uncles and grandfathers can also attend the “daddy-daughter dance.”

Meade and her family left the dance because they thought it’d be better than splitting up.

The father-daughter dance at CCBA has been around for 20 years. Day said:

“We’ve always been about community. We’ve never been about disregarding anyone’s feelings about anything.”

Meade said she hopes they’ll be less exclusionary in the future.

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12 Replies to “Mom Was Kicked Out of Valentine’s Day Dance With Son Because It Was Meant to be ‘Father-Daughter’”

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    Ok I get it that it was supposed to be a father daughter dance but seriously people it was Valentine’s Day and the mother bought the tickets for her family you should have let it alone and let them as a FAMILY enjoy the dance they were not hurting anyone were they. According to one of your comments in the article they weren’t!! Also you people need to think about this they are some girls whose father is no longer here on earth with them and don’t have any other male family members or friends that they would want to go with to the dance. THINK ABOUT HOW THOSE YOUNG LADIES MIGHT FEEL. LIKE I said before it’s VALENTINES Day and obviously you people made a big deal out of NOTHING just because a mother wanted to spend time at a Valentines Day dance with her children and by the way here’s a reminder SHE PAID FOR ALL of HER FAMILIES TICKETS!!!!!!!

  • Lisa 2 years ago

    It was a father daughter dance. I agree with them. If the whole family goes it takes away from the theme of father day dance.If they want to go as a family then there needs to be a different event for that. Maybe call it a family dance where all family members can attend. Maybe next year the school will not do it on valentine day to keep this from happening.

  • Cara 2 years ago

    There should be dances for the whole family. I get the importance of girls needing time with a male role model. Truth is there are many children of both sexes who do not have that. Also, boys need to feel special too, and be taught how to treat a woman. How often do you see mother/son events?

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    it was for father and daughters. why would the lady even presume she could go. the do have dances for mother and son. That is what is wrong with our society today. No one thinks the rules apply to them!

  • Florence Matchner 2 years ago

    So i guess single parents who raise their kids have to tell their children “no” they cant go because your father is either too busy working to keep the roof over your head and cant take time off for a dance or im sorry hunny but daddys passing was unexpected or im sorry baby your daddy is away serving his country ..this world is crazy

  • Marie 2 years ago

    Of course it was stopped for other people’s traditions. Egads. How about, this our friggin tradition. And if you don’t like it you know where to go. I can’t stand people “my homeland is terrible, yet let’s go make the country we are going to abide by our laws and culture” even though that’s why we are leaving.. I bet there, you couldn’t walk in and demand change to their homeland, tell them what they can and cannot do. You came to us for a reason. If you’re so offended of “our ways” please don’t let the plane door hit your ass on the way out. Dont expect us to change for you when you wouldn’t do the same for us. Pathetic. If I was ever told this at my son’s fuvking school is snap. I’m sorry this is Canada, if we’re are going to have to accept your bullshit then you better suck our traditions the fuck up. IF YOU DONT LIKE OUR WAYS PICK ANOTHER COUNTRY TO GO TO! I don’t care about anyone else’s opinion honestly. Let’s all go do the shit they do to us and see how they like it. Bet they’ll get their panties in a bunch and cut our hands off or some barbaric shit. Its Coming to the point where a kid can’t dance with his own mother? Pethetic. Or how about all the offence shit they do To us? Like driving into a bunch of people in Toronto? You bring these people here to royally fuck our country to where a boy and mother can’t share a special moment. Fuck this school and EVERY.SINGLE.STAFF. at this disgusting shithole

  • Vivian Broadhead 2 years ago

    Our school offers father daughter and mother son dances. I’m not sure what this school does and that may be something they should look into. But the mother was wrong to crash a father daughter specific event just because she wanted to celebrate Valentine’s Day with her son. Crying discrimination and insinuating their feelings were being disregarded indicates how immature this woman truly is. Trying to homogenize everything is what is wrong in the world right now. This dance was not a statement on what type of parent any of those attending were. Her inability to understand this makes it clear what kind of parent she is- selfish and self centered. She could have planned something for her family but instead she decided to crash an event and make a scene.
    Respecting healthy traditions doesn’t hurt anyone. This school has been holding this dance for 20 years. If they don’t do a mother son dance then she should request they start a new tradition to include and celebrate that relationship. I’m sure they would comply. It probably already exists but I doubt she looked into that.
    Such pettiness is a poor example for her children. I’m sure her behavior made some people attending uncomfortable. But she doesn’t sound like someone who really cares if she makes others uncomfortable as long as she gets what she wants.

  • Ziggy89 2 years ago

    I (Dad) accompanied my daughter to many “Mother- Daughter” read on Mothers’ Day after the death of her Mother.

    My daughter has also passed now but those are some of my fondest memories due to other Parents in general with class.

    This is a case of tight-assed petty bureaucrats. The broomsticks don’t help either.

  • Ziggy89 2 years ago

    “read” should have b
    een “teas”. I despise auto-correct!!!!!!!!!!

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    I had a friend who took her daughter to a father/daughter dance because he just couldn’t be bothered to be a part of her life. He hadn’t seen her in years, doesn’t keep up with her on Facebook or anything of the nature. Her mom made sure it was ok, but I promise you if they would have said no there would have been hell to pay. It’s not fair to the child to be told they can’t go because the father isn’t present in the child’s life for whatever reason…..

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    If I was her I would have stayed there and dance with my son ???

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    Well I’ve been having to be both roles to my children because their dad who lives 18 min away can’t seem to figure it out, or just doesn’t give a shit more likely. But I give a shit, and if my daughter wanted to go to this, I’d fucking put on a suit and play my role as dad even tho I have a vagina. And then they can try to make me leave, but if is an forced to play daddy, I gotta do what I gotta do, irregardles what genitalia I have. Fortunately, my daughter would rather go to the arcade.

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