There was something about the woman waiting to pick her kids up from school. And it brought out a part of Constance Hall’s personality she’d rather forget.

There was this women at school pick up everyday. I don't know what it was about her, she drove a nice car, held her…

Posted by Constance Hall on Wednesday, August 23, 2017

As the Australian blogger and mom shared on Facebook, she remembers watching the other mom waiting with her at the school pick-up:

I don’t know what it was about her, she drove a nice car, held her head high and always had a blow dry.

She spoke in a posh accent, wore nice (non stained) clothes and barely ever spoke to me.

Hall couldn’t help but compare herself to the perfect, put-together mom, and that only made her feel worse. She wrote:

There I was, with my tits out breast feeding my babies, smelling like dried milk, matted hair, a puffy face from a morning in tears, no shoes and a partial bogan accent…

It was like she was put on this earth to amplify my insecurities.

Feeling bad about herself and wanting to feel better, Hall tried to gossip about the perfect mom with another parent.

But that mom’s response stopped Hall in her tracks:

“Talk to the woman not about her.”

So that’s exactly what Hall did.

One day, she sat down and talked to the “perfect” mom. That’s when Hall learned her envy and insecurity had led her to completely misjudge that mom and what she’d been through. Hall wrote:

I found out she is an ex addict and holds AA meetings to help out other addicted women that want sobriety, I found out she struggles with her marriage, her kids and her health just like the rest of us. I found out that she is a million things, snobby not being one of them.

She is one of the most inspiring women I know.

While Hall was learning how wrong she’d been about that mom, she discovered that others had been making wrong assumptions about her:

Turns out I have a confident exterior too, turns out that while sitting there hating my life without the confidence to talk to these gorgeous mums, they didn’t have the confidence to talk to me, they thought I was too free too relaxed, that I thought I was too cool.

Now, Hall says that perfect mom at school is one of her best friends. She also has a message for other parents who are sizing her (or any other mom) up at the school pick-up:

“I’d like to remind mums everywhere to … talk to the woman, not about her.”

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