Working mom Sarah Buckley Friedberg has had enough of the way society views moms who work.

According to “Good Morning America,” Friedberg is a full-time microbiology manager for a major medical device company, and her husband is a pediatrician. The mom of three described him as a “fantastic partner.”

On April 18, Friedberg took to Facebook to express her frustrations about how working moms are supposed to do things.

She began:

Society to working moms:

-Go back to work 6-8 weeks after having the baby. The baby that you spent 9-10 months growing inside of your body. Go back to work before you have finished healing or have had time to bond with your baby. Keep your mind on work, and not your tiny helpless baby that is being watched and cared for by someone other than you. Make sure to break the glass ceiling and excel at your job- you can do anything a man can do! It is your job to show society this! Show the world that women can do it all. Rise to the top of your career.

-Also breastfeed for at least a year. So take 2-3 pumping breaks a day at work, but don’t let it throw you off your game or let you lose your focus.

Friedberg then took on how society expects working mothers to lose their “baby weight” as quickly as possible and how they are expected to not only get a proper amount of sleep but also “workout, work, and care for your family” on top of making sure the house stays clean.

The mom continued:

Maintain a clean, pinterest worthy house. Take the Christmas lights down. Recycle. Be Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, the birthday planner, the poop doula (seriously when will this end), the finder of lost things, the moderator of fights. Be fun. Be firm. Read books. Have dance parties.

Friedberg also said society expects moms to keep track of the family schedule, doctor’s appointments, birthday parties, back-to-school nights, parent-teacher conferences, teach the kids to “read, ride a bike, be a good human being, eat vegetables, wear sunscreen, drink enough water, say please and thank you.”

Moms need to make sure all of their school projects are done and that their children are in clothes that actually fit them, seeing as they grow constantly when they are young:

Remember the dog you got before you had kids? Shes getting old now and needs expensive surgery. She also need walking, a new bed, and she smells pretty bad.

As Friedberg continued, society expects working moms to do all of that while saving enough vacation days to actually go on a family vacation.

They are expected to cook healthy meals, go grocery shopping, hang with their kids on the weekend, but also “date your spouse” to “keep your relationship alive and fresh.”

Society to working moms: -Go back to work 6-8 weeks after having the baby. The baby that you spent 9-10 months growing…

Posted by Sarah Buckley Friedberg on Thursday, April 18, 2019

Working moms should also have time to keep up with a hobby of their own and hang out with their friends as well:

-Self care though. SO important. See also: getting in shape. See the general doctor, the dentist (TWICE), the lady doctor. Prob need to get your eyes checked. Full body skin checks 2+ times a year (just me? okay well). Mental health too. Postpartum anxiety? But you look fine and your kids are so cute. Everyone should have a therapist. Good luck finding one that takes your insurance and has hours outside of your normal working time (out of vacation time, remember?). That leaves evening time when you want to hang out with your kids. But it’s important, so make time for it.

Get off your phone, turn off the TV, and enjoy your life. Enjoy your kids. THESE ARE THE GOOD TIMES make sure to love every minute of life because before you know it all of this will be in the past.

Friedberg concluded, “I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to lean OUT.”

The mom said she doesn’t have many complaints in her life but decided to write the Facebook post to really point out what is expected of all mothers, compared to fathers:

“If my husband takes one kid to the grocery store, he gets a parade. I take three kids to the grocery store and don’t get [the same treatment]. It’s just the way society is. He puts the kids to bed, cooks, cleans — it’s sort of the extra stuff that doesn’t fall to him.”

She continued:

“I was venting but also being humorous that there’s not enough hours to do all these things. We have to prioritize and we do prioritize, but sometimes it gets to you.”

Over 27,000 people liked and shared Friedberg’s post, with over 4,000 other people sharing their woes as parents too and nodding along in agreement.

One wrote, “SO TRUE ALL OF IT.”

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3 Replies to “Mom Goes Viral After Venting Over What Society Expects From Working Moms: ‘Sometimes It Gets to You’”

  • Anonymous 8 months ago

    Nothing new. Was true 40 years ago when I had children.

  • Anonymous 8 months ago

    I DIDN’T ASK YOU TO HAVE CHILDREN OR TO LIVE THE WAY YOU DO! YOU WANT IT ALL. IF YOU HAVE IT ALL, YOU TOOK A SHARE THAT BELONGED TO SOMEONE ELSE. IF YOU FEEL YOUR A DOOR MAT, COMPLAIN TO YOUR HUSBAND. HE IS THE ONE NOT DOING HIS FAIR SHARE. WHY DO YOU WANT SOME OF MY SHARE?

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