A concerned mom turned to other parents after she noticed her son with autism was being excluded at school.
The mother, who goes by Penguincake on Mumsnet, said that her boy isn’t getting invited to parties that seemingly all his other classmates go to.
To make matters worse, his teacher is the one to hand out the invitations on behalf of the children’s parents.
She wrote on the parenting forum that her son does have a problem with pushing due to his autism, so she understands why parents may be hesitant:
I am quite willing to be told I am [being unreasonable]. My son has Autism and can occasionally push children when he is panicked. He has been doing a lot better recently and his teacher has said he is forming good relationships. However I understand that some children might be wary of him.
He has been in [kindergarten] since September and has not been invited to a single party. I totally accept a parents choice in not having a child who pushes at their child’s party.
The mom said it mostly hurts because his teacher is the one to pass out the invites. She explained:
What does hurt though is when there is a party, the class teacher or TA stands at the door at class time with a big wodge of invitations and gives them to each child as they leave. Yet again today they had a stack of invitations and my son was the only one walking out without one.
She said her little boy has started to notice that he’s the only one not getting an invite:
He has started to question why he doesn’t get a “card”. It all feels so bloody thoughtless and cruel.
The upset mother explained that she thinks the teacher “should refuse to hand out invites unless everyone is invited.” She also asked if she should just “suck it up.”
Many parents were quick to agree with the mom. Some suggested that the teacher should be more discreet with the invites.
One fellow parent commented:
That’s really cruel. I really feel for both you and your ds. They should be popped into book bags if teachers are giving them out.
It’s unclear if the mom has since had a talk with the teacher.
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