An Atlanta mother of two says she’s not afraid to show the “ugliness” that comes with motherhood.

The woman — known as MsVirginiaSlim, or Mrs.Thomas, on Instagram — shared a video on April 11, which has recently gone viral.

In the 4:54 a.m. time-stamped video, Mrs.Thomas can be seen crying as she talks about the current challenges she’s facing as a mom.

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She said:

“This is the side of motherhood they don’t show. They don’t tell you that the baby sometimes will be up for 8 hours hollering, going to sleep for 20 minutes, waking up, don’t want nothing just want to eat and holler. And they don’t tell you that you’re going to have nights where you cry and look like this. And I’ve literally been up since 8 o’clock… I’m sleepy. I’m tired. At this point, I’m hungry. I want to run away. I want to get in my car and I want to drive far away.”

At the end of the clip, she briefly puts the camera on an infant she’s cradling in her lap.

When Thomas initially shared the post, she captioned it:

This is REAL LIFE for me right now..
excuse the stress & ugliness in my face!
I’m spent.
Nobody shows the nitty gritty, or the struggle. it’s always talked about, but now you can see the physical pain it brings…
i just want to sleep. I’d settle for 1 hour

Lord

There aren’t enough words to describe how I’m feeling…
please. Pray for us

Since Thomas posted the video, it has gained over 42,000 views and 2,600 comments on her page alone.

However, not all of those comments were supportive or kind.

In response, Thomas updated the caption of her post. She revealed that she and her husband are adopting her nephew, who was “born with substance abuse.” Further, she explained her reason for sharing such an emotional video.

She added:

This video is getting lots of traction so I’ll leave the original caption posted BUT I need to add some pertinent facts..reading these comments & you guys are so heartless, it’s funny BUT also sickening & disgusting how some of you think/act… So, first things 1st, I am married!

2. My husband is a GREAT help to me in raising our 2 children AND he was laying right next to me recording this!

3. This is NOT a cry for attention! I get plenty of that on a regular basis, no problem!

4th & MOST importantly…We are ADOPTING my nephew, I didn’t lay down, opening my legs to any ol’ body & now crying because I can’t do it!l OR it’s too hard!

My nephew was born with substance abuse & didn’t have anybody at the time…We are adopting him b/c we couldn’t bear our own flesh & blood to be raised in the system not knowing how he would turn out or be cared for…

We are NOT looking for sympathy, praise, OR even acknowledgment…this video is just me not being afraid to show the world how some nights us mother’s have moment where we need to let it all out when we feel defeated/drained…BUT we keep going!
So don’t get it twisted…I love my children…wouldn’t trade them for the world

Sincerely, Me

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This video is getting lots of traction so i’ll leave the original caption posted BUT i need to add some pertinent facts..reading these comments & you guys are so heartless, it’s funny BUT also sickening & disgusting how some of you think/act… So, first things 1st, i am married! 2. my husband is a GREAT help to me in raising our 2 children AND he was laying right next to me recording this! 3. this is NOT a cry for attention! i get plenty of that on a regular basis, no problem! 4th & MOST importantly…We are ADOPTING my nephew, i didn’t lay down, opening my legs to any ol’ body & now crying because i can’t do it!l OR it’s too hard! My nephew was born with substance abuse & didn’t have anybody at the time…We are adopting him b/c we couldn’t bear our own flesh & blood to be raised in the system not knowing how he would turn out or be cared for… We are NOT looking for sympathy, praise, OR even acknowledgment…this video is just me not being afraid to show the world how some nights us mother’s have moment where we need to let it all out when we feel defeated/drained…BUT we keep going! So don’t get it twisted…I love my children…wouldn’t trade them for the world ? Sincerely, Me ? This is REAL LIFE for me right now.. excuse the stress & ugliness in my face! i’m spent. Nobody shows the nitty gritty, or the struggle. it’s always talked about, but now you can see the physical pain it brings… i just want to sleep. i’d settle for 1 hour Lord there aren’t enough words to describe how i’m feeling… please. pray for us ?? . . #Motherhood #MomLife #Adoption #BIGLOVE #FamILY #BabyBless #Inspiration #Inspo #Blogger #AspiringBlogger #Share #Inspire #HoldOn #ToughTimesDontLast #Strong #ItTakesAVillage #Belief #GodsFavor #Favor #Honor #Blessed #BlessUp #HearMyPlea #HearMyCry #SAHM #Grace #PhewSon #StruggleIsReal

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Since the video’s posting, the mother of two continues to share parts of her motherhood journey with videos and pictures of her children. Further, she often reminds her followers that although being a mom is tough, she wouldn’t trade it for the world.

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GM ? . My morning CURRENTLY…going thru it & laughing on the way! Yesterday was pretty shitty! i felt my anxiety trying to attack, so i just kept breathing deep & kept it cool..Boogie doesn’t sleep during the day (it’s 5-10min naps every hour or so & thats CRAY, but he sleeps allllll night, sometimes til 9am, so NO COMPLAINTS there) . Last night i text my husband “you’re on duty tonight, when i hear your key turn the lock, i’m running past ya” LOL i didn’t RUN RUN but i dang sure get thee heck on when he arrived! I managed to cook dinner & lay out everything he’d need for Boogz & somehow managed to get zoie tucked in! IDK how i tackled it all, BUT I DID! . I went to my sis in laws house @queenjuju_ …drank a wholeeee bottle of moscato ALONE & just sat around for some girl talk/good laughs! …FAST FORWARD TO THIS MORNING… Zoie woke up fine for about 10mins, she looked drained in the face but felt physically fine so i thought nothing of it…we actually called my husband on his way to the gym & told him we were gonna let her play hookie (something i do at least 2xs a school year…for those of you who have an opinion…SAVE IT ✋?) BUT daddy didn’t like the idea of it, so we decided she had to go…So now it’s almost time to get dressed for school & what happens…She starts complaining of a stomachache ?..my kid is dramatic so that‘s literally my face ?? i’m like “Girl, stop acting..you’re going to school ”… She immediately rushed to the toilet, and whadayaknowwww DIARRHEA & VOMITING commenced! ???‍♀️ <—- this is me at this point! . Welll now my husband goes to the gym at 6am& doesn’t take his phone out of his gym bag so he can workout w/ ni distraction so all 5/6 of my calls were unanswered LMAO So now i’m trying to rock Boogz back to sleep, but he’s so damn nosey that he’s acting like he wants to see the poop or something, with his 3.5 month old self ? SOOO…I got poop on my hand from wiping Zo, then Boogz threw up on my shoulder (i still smell it as i’m typing this?) But by the grace of GOD, @j.l.thomas calls & is otw!! So now she IS staying home ? “Isn’t it ironic” . #MotherHood #MommyMode #CrazyMornings #iKnowImNotAlone #Funnies @bombmomzclub

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One Reply to “‘Side of Motherhood They Don’t Show’: Mom Who Adopted Nephew Born Into Substance Abuse Shares Emotional Video”

  • Anonymous 1 year ago

    Your a special couple for adopting a child that is not yours. Relative or not.
    Your a special couple for adopting a child with probable issues.
    Don’t let anyone put you down, don’t let anyone tell you to just quit.
    Every mother I ever met wanted to run away from it all at some time or another. Most won’t admit that though.
    I was adopted by a loving couple who gave me and another adopted child the best lives we could have had.
    They were also foster parents to about 10 children over the years and loved every one as their own.
    We as mothers all know the struggles of raising children.
    Some of us are not as good as we should have been but that is the card we were handed.
    Keep us the good work and enjoy the good times with your children. All of them.

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