Mel Watts is proud of the body that brought her son into the world — so proud that she shared an unflattering photo of her C-section scar.
But that doesn’t mean she’s declaring war against the fit moms of the world.
? Top photo 30 weeks pregnant Bottom photo 4 days post Caesarean section. Wow.Honestly it's no castle or bloody piece…
The Australian mom and blogger recently gave birth to her fourth child, a boy named Sonny. Watts shared photos of her stomach at 30-weeks pregnant and four days after her C-section. As she wrote on Facebook, it’s awe-inspiring to reflect on how a body that’s no “piece of art” gave her another life:
It held onto him for 9 months and sheltered him, protected him and prepared him for the day he was born. So many times I’ve doubted my body, so many times I’ve pinched and pulled at sections that I didn’t like. In reality this body has done everything I’d ever want it to do. Sure it’s not magazine or swimsuit-worthy to some. But to me and my husband, it’s the place that grew our babies. It’s the place that everything we love most started. And that’s all that counts right?!
Watts added that it’s important to know what works best for you rather than worrying about society’s standards for attractiveness. She wrote:
No body has the same body. And every body has their own body. Enjoy it.
Her willingness to share such an intimate “warts and all” image had commenters praising Watts for being relatable. Many were touched by her words about loving her body for carrying her children.
However, something about that praise bothered Watts. Especially those who used the photos as an example of how Watts represented a “real” mom and woman.
Hey guys!Me again. So after yesterday's post I've had a few comments, shares etc which have been great . As reaching so…
In a follow-up post, Watts explained that she was grateful that her post touched so many people. She didn’t even mind the critics who were turned off by the picture:
The photo was unflattering, with a dressing intact. If you zoomed you may of seen some regrowth and the little dignity I had left. Whatever floats your boat. As the shares reached new people the comments grew wider and further. Some referring to it as a real post-baby body, some referring to it as revolting. Which is totally okay.
However, while the people who celebrated Watts as an example of a “real” mom’s body meant well, there was a problem. She wrote:
I think you should be aware that I didn’t use the word ‘real’ in any of my post. I think all women’s bodies are real. Some work hard for theirs and some *cough cough* don’t.
Watts went on to explain that she’s seen too many examples of women being shamed or insulted for their looks. And it isn’t just the ones who are criticized for being “too fat.” The skinny and pretty come in for their share of nastiness, as well.
By doing what you love, you inspire and awaken the hearts of others. Including your mini's ?
Watts referenced fitness blogger Revie Jane and other moms who have been criticized for how fast they recovered from pregnancy (or how small their baby belly was to begin with). As Watts wrote, she knows why she doesn’t have the same kind of body:
The difference between us, both of these women work hard for how they look. I’ve watched Revie going to the gym whilst I’m on a six-pack of doughnuts.
The point, Watts added, is that they’re all real because they’re all moms:
Just because we all look different doesn’t mean none of us aren’t real or unrealistic. Some women bounce back, some don’t. Some women train hard, some don’t. And just because you feel like you don’t fit in one of these categories doesn’t make you any less real than myself, Lauren or Revie.
There’s one thing that ties all these moms together. And that’s far more important than comparing post-pregnancy bodies. Watts concluded:
We’re all women who have birthed little humans and we’re all just trying to do the best we can. Just like the other millions of women in the world. Instead of fighting each other.
She pondered: “How about we just embrace each other?”