A popular mom blogger took to Facebook to make one request from spouses “on behalf of mamas everywhere” on Friday.

In the post, Mary Katherine Backstrom’s called for “men, husbands, people who love us” to take their woman’s picture.

Dear men, husbands, people who love us,On behalf of mamas everywhere, I have an important request:Take our picture….

Posted by Mary Katherine Backstrom on Friday, March 29, 2019

She wrote:

Dear men, husbands, people who love us,

On behalf of mamas everywhere, I have an important request:

Take our picture.

Even when we complain, even when our hair is a mess. Even when we are wearing a dingy, oversized sweatshirt.

Take our picture.

I know this isn’t something on the forefront of your mind, and that’s okay. We don’t need every special moment documented…but, let’s be honest.

We spend a lot of time doing just that for everyone else.


Take our picture.

Even when we fuss about how “chubby” we think we look in our swimsuit. If you see us splashing and laughing loudly with our babies in the heat of a gorgeous summer day—I don’t care if we are nine months pregnant (*ahem*)

Take our picture.

Next, she went on to explain how mothers often take photos of their men and kids whether it goes unnoticed or not. Further, Backstrom pointed out that it’s the joy that makes mothers want to savor special moments forever.

Subsequently, her caption went on:

You may not realize it now, but we’ve taken hundreds of sneaky photos of you and the people you love.

When we see you snuggled on the couch with our babies or playing catch in the backyard, our hearts fill with joy and we can’t help but take your picture.

Or maybe you DO realize it, and it’s a little bit annoying. I can understand that, too.

In conclusion, Backstrom ended the post by stating that the reason these photos of them are important is because of the children.

Today, he asked me to hold him.My hands were full, and it was 90 degrees outside. We live in Florida, so even in the…

Posted by Mary Katherine Backstrom on Tuesday, April 2, 2019

Additionally, the blogger wrote:

But here is a little reminder of these pictures are SO dang important:

One day, we won’t be around for our babies.

One day, you and I will be gone and what will remain of us will be the memories we’ve captured of this beautiful life we made.

One day, our kids will gather around a table and scroll through images of these precious, fleeting days.

They will cry and laugh and commiserate.

They will say “Remember that vacation? Remember that day?”

And it will be so, so beautiful.

But if every single picture was taken by their mama, guess who won’t be in those memories?

Men, husbands, people who love us,

Take our picture.

The mother of your children deserves to be seen, documented, and remembered.

Not through posed family portraits or hundreds of selfies. But as who she was—who she is NOW—in those real, special life moments.

I know we complain and we don’t make it easy. Love us enough to do it, anyways.

For our sake and for yours.

For the sake of our babies

Take our picture.

The post has garnered over 11,000 reactions, 26,000, shares, and 6,000 comments on Facebook.

Among many replies, one man commented:

As a husband you ladies need to realize something….. we love you. Your messed up hair, no makeup, or bad lighting doesn’t matter. I love the smile, the look in my wife’s eyes as she looks at me…. the smell of her skin… that part behind her ear at her hairline. Sometimes underweight… sometimes overweight….. it doesn’t matter. Be confident ladies and know that you are the most beautiful creatures on this earth and there are real men everywhere that love the way I do. Those little sneaky pictures your man takes are because he sees something worth saving forever. Please try to be proud of how you look. Please believe we love you. These moments won’t last…. we are younger in every single picture we have ever taken. Enjoy who we are today because tomorrow is never guaranteed. ?~ Steve

In response to the post, many users began to share their favorite off guard photos that were taken of them or their spouse. Others just commented in support of the message.

For instance, one woman wrote:

Thank you for this. My mom died when I was five. There is one single picture of her for myself and my three grown siblings. In that one picture she is turning her head. Moms, please allow your picture no matter how you think you look. It’s just your face we want

Further, a mom commented:

This doesn’t just go out to the men…women…take pictures of your mama friends and sisters and cousins because you may be the only one that does. My ex husband never took pictures of me with our daughter and now that we’re divorced and I’m single the only pictures I get of her and I together are the selfies or ones I pay a photographer for or when my mom snaps one but by golly I take all of the selfies, and snap chat filter selfies I can and I pay for a photographer every year because I want my daughter to see me and her, doing this thing together and creating a beautiful life and she is the light of my mine and I want her to see those smiles and remember how precious she is/was to me when I’m gone one day.

Another user wrote:

I have no pictures of me with my newborns, of me snuggling with my toddlers. Something I grieve.

Do you think moms need their picture taken more often? Comment below.

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One Reply to “Mom Writes Powerful Message to Dads Everywhere: ‘For the Sake of Our Babies, Take Our Picture’”

  • Charlene Allen 1 year ago

    Take pictures of all your children, at all stages. the last child for generations is the least on film or photographed because parents are either too busy with the other children or ceased to care of the last babies. Those of us who were last in line have very little to show our children in what we looked like when we were little.

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