Katey Johnson is a mother of two. For as long as she can remember, she’s struggled with her weight.

While she recognizes that “most people have body issues,” she decided to do something and overcome her insecurities.

In preparation for a vacation with her husband, Katey bought the perfect dress. Although it may not have been the perfect fit for her “size/body type,” she adored it. Rather than obsess over the imperfections she saw in herself, the mom of two decided to snap a picture and post it for 15,000 people to see.

This is me in a dress I have no business wearing. It's not the first time I've worn it and it won't be the last time. I…

Posted by The Mother Octopus on Monday, August 14, 2017

She started off on Facebook, writing:

This is me in a dress I have no business wearing. It’s not the first time I’ve worn it and it won’t be the last time.

Katey wasn’t fishing for compliments or looking for anyone to tell her how great she looked. She acknowledged that some may think she looks “a little pregnant in [the dress],” but she pointed out that the little bit of leftover tummy grew her two babies.

However, she added that now: “It’s just where I keep my cheeseburgers and sauvignon blanc.”

Courtesy of Katey Johnson

All joking aside, Katey admitted that, save for when she was pregnant, she’s at the heaviest weight she’s ever been. Weight, she said, has always been an issue for her:

I’ve always struggled with my weight and if you’ve ever struggled with your weight, you know it’s not a physical struggle. It’s about how you see yourself and how you speak to yourself in your mind.

By wearing that dress she decided to change how she speaks to herself in her mind:

After 40 years of telling myself I have no business wearing things I want to wear, I’ve decided to change the subject. I’ve decided to start being kind to myself.

Katey’s husband backs up her self-acceptance wholeheartedly. After seeing her struggles, he “just wants [her] to feel good about [herself].”

She added:

“He’s probably the greatest blessing that’s ever happened to me. I don’t know where I’d be today if I hadn’t met him. Truly.”

A “firm believer in HAPPY WIFE, HAPPY LIFE,” Katey told Dearly that:

“[My husband] just tells me that he loves me regardless and wants me to be healthy and happy and that’s more than enough for me to hear.”

While having a supportive and accepting husband is a key component to a successful marriage, self-love is important, too.

Katey Johnson

Katey is done doubting herself. Rather than trying to emulate what she thinks she’s supposed to look like, the mom has decided to:

[Hit] that red decline button when the self-doubt calls start pouring it. I don’t want to do it anymore. I want to be in the business of loving myself. It’s as simple as that.

Admitting that she cares more about what she thinks about herself than what anyone else thinks, Katey said she’s “muting the negative things I say to myself.”

Katey Johnson

Life’s too short to worry about what others think about you.

Katey hopes that publicizing her self-acceptance will liberate those who struggle with insecurities and inspire them to have “kinder inner monologues when it comes to what they wear.”


Katey Johnson

She added:

“I don’t know if turning 40 this past spring has anything to do with it, but my advice would be to wear what lifts your spirit and maybe takes you a little bit out of your comfort zone.”

When she pulled out the dress again for her most recent girl’s weekend, Katey wasn’t trying to suck in her stomach or worry about what she looked like. Instead, when she was “one and a half proseccos deep” her “belly sticking out was the last thing on [her] mind.”

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