A mom worried when she discovered her son’s preschool was allegedly allowing her 2-year-old to play dress-up in a dress.

But some debated over the issue after the boy’s family confronted the teacher, and pulled him out of the private Christian school.

Kayla Bedford told Yahoo, that on Friday after the stay-at-home mom’s girlfriend dropped her son off at Bethany Early Childhood Center, she said goodbye and then noticed the toddler putting on a dress.

The 24-year-old recalled the incident:

“She came back into the classroom and took off the dress saying, ‘We don’t do this’ in front of the teacher.”

Apparently, the girlfriend claims the 2-year-old was “parading around in a dress.”

Posted by Bethany Lutheran ECC on Thursday, June 21, 2018

Kayla explained:

“I am a lesbian, but I don’t push my son in any direction. Whatever he decides to do or wear in the future is his decision.”

Outraged, later on in the day, the mom went to the boy’s school to speak with his teacher, and was upset when she saw her son put on a dress again, while the teacher stood beside and watched. She said:

“I pulled his teacher aside and explained that I don’t condone my son wearing a dress at school.

She just laughed and said, ‘He’s only two!’”

Kayla then asked her father to confront the educator.

In a now-viral video, Malcolm Caliboy Bedford can be heard berating the childcare provider in front of children.

Watch the clip of their conversation below:

I took off work this morning to go check her ass!

Posted by Malcolm Caliboy Bedford on Friday, November 30, 2018

Malcolm said:

“I don’t appreciate you encouraging him to put on no dress, for a second day too.


We don’t do that.”

Again the teacher shoots back:

“He’s two.”

Kayla complained to the school and said her requests were disregarded, so she pulled her son from the daycare.

The footage from her dad’s heated interaction with the teacher was viewed over 31,000 times. Many shared their mixed reactions to the incident.

One commenter wrote:

Salute to the grandfather for going to his grandchild’s school and letting them know they will not be putting a dress on him!

However, others said the family was out of line:

It’s hard to know what actually went on but I’d put a little boy in a dress if that’s what he wanted … my son has worn princess dresses with his sister and he was adorable …

Another Instagram commenter wrote:

So if your son is putting on a dress, I would talk to the son about it. Not complain to the teachers. The teacher was not putting him in a dress. The son was putting it on.

A spokesman for the school released a statement to Yahoo, but refused to comment on the specifics of the incident. The childcare center wrote:

We put our children first and foremost.

We encourage our children to play in a Christ-centered atmosphere that we hope will allow them to gain confidence and learn to interact with others in a positive way.

How would you handle the dress-up situation at Bethany Early Childhood Center?

Would you have an issue with the teacher allowing the 2-year-old to play around in a dress?

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Tiffani is a writer for Dearly. She is from New York City. Prior to working for Dearly she covered fashion news and managed social media for various digital media outlets.

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14 Replies to “Mom Confronts Her Son’s Teacher Twice for Allowing Him to Play Around in a Dress: ‘We Don’t Do That’”

  • George Krueck 2 years ago

    Do they also have police and military uniforms, or biker clothes. How about religious clothing, antifa , ialamic, ho about doctors, nurses and male nurses ?

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    As his parent, the mom was entirely within her rightful purview to confront the teacher-that this occurred in a so-called “Christian” daycare is appalling! I would certainly talk to the boy-but it is the teacher’s authority that allowed this, and if unacceptable to the boy’s mom and family, unacceptable, period.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    The parents have a right to be upset. If that were my child, no matter how old they are, I would protest also. This transgender crap has gotten out of hand.

  • Sydney 2 years ago

    I hope the daycare removes the child themselves. For a grandparent, or ANYONE, to walk into a classroom full of kids and behave that way is absolutely horrid. Grandpa should be ashamed of himself, mom too.

  • Zane 2 years ago

    First of all, as a private organization, that daycare can set its own standards for dress code. They are perfectly within their rights to allow a boy to wear a dress if he so desires. Second, my younger brother loved dressing up as a unicorn, a witch, and one time, Cinderella. No, that wasn’t for Halloween. He did it for fun, and enjoyed every minute of it. Today, he’s about to enter high school, and aside from the typical teenage angst, he’s a standard boy. No gentleman, but no girl either. That 2 year old can hardly distinguish between males and females at this point, and that’s how youth should be. The chances of him continuing this behavior past daycare age are extremely slim.

    • Anonymous 2 years ago

      Children “dress up” all the time. My son, my nephews all dressed up with their sisters and cousins. Not a transgender in the bunch. It’s completely age appropriate. Grandpas behavior is disgraceful and his grandson was watching as he belittled him in front of his classmates.

  • Amy 2 years ago

    The grandfather could have went in to talk to the teacher like an adult, away from the children, without sounding like complete trash! I understand his concerns, and they are legit…. but come on! What an ignorant prick! There was no need to come off like such a douche

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    Young children play. They do not notice the difference of girls vs boys especially when it comes to play time and toys. They have imaginations. My brother played barbies with me when we were young. I played with his teenage mutant ninja turtles, his cars, and his GI Joes. Neither of us are transgender or having issues with our sexual identities. We’re each happily married with our respective spouses with children. I think it’s juvenile to confront the teacher in front of the other kids. That does not set a good example of how to handle things in any decent manner. Showing the teacher no respect regardless of the issue also does not set a good example for the children. There were better ways to express the discontent of what was being allowed.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    How can the mom claim to not push her son in any direction if she is upset and removing him from a childcare arrangement where he was clearly comfortable simply because he played dress up with a (horrors!) dress? She managed to teach him very quickly that expressing himself that way was as wrong as wrong could be in her eyes. There is nothing wrong with a child exploring and experimenting in ways that do not cause them injury. He may have wanted to be like a friend in the class. He may have wanted to be like a character in a tv show he saw. He may have wanted to wear something sparkly. Who cares! He’s 2 and he should be allowed to play and just be 2 to find his own way in the world. He wasn’t hurting a single person in that classroom.

  • Norm Schain 2 years ago

    This guy was rude, obnoxious and frightening to the employee and the children in her care. Unacceptable behavior!! And the activity was only harmless dress-up. Get real and get over the homophobia.

  • Jan 2 years ago

    First of all…a 2 year old isn’t able to put on a dress by himself. My 3 year old grandson is just learning to put his shirt on. Secondly, taking any child’s clothes off at a daycare, unless they fell in a pond is ridiculous. Wake up people.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    I think a lot of people missed the fact that the grandfather is not on the school forms as someone that can speak to the teachers about the student. Even in public school I cannot make an appointment to talk to anyone at my grand kids school, see their grades or pick them up from school unless I have been listed on the forms by the parent.

  • Loi Kearns 2 years ago

    I baby sat for this little boy who was about 3. He wanted to dress up like a girl. His name was Zach. I called him Zacarena, he like that name. Then there came the time that Zac wanted to put on some make up. I said I have to ask your Dad first. I asked him if it was alright to put some make up on. His dad said “Sure, if he wants too” So, I put some make up on him. He liked how he looked. A little while after that, Zack said he did not want to be Zacarena any more. So, I washed his face, took off nail polish, and he took off the girl clothes and said he was Zach again. That little boy grew up to be a well adjusted young man.

  • Thomas Ianello 2 years ago

    I can understand the grand/parents views, but in all reality, they certainly are homophobic and listening to him talk, he is not able to speak like an educated man. I sincerely hope his grandson doesn’t spend many moments with Grandpa.

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