In the age of technology parents have learned to expect — and perhaps dread — discovering their kid doing something inappropriate on social media. 

And there’s no predictable moment for this event. 

A video posted online showed one mom accidentally wandering into a room and losing it when she discovered her teen daughter dancing in a seductive manner, reports the Daily Mail

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The furious mom stormed into the room and punished her daughter while the video was still recording.

Footage captured the mother’s reaction when she caught her daughter and her friend “twerking” in front of a web camera. 

The incident drew attention to a controversial topic: parents losing their temper and disciplining kids by hitting.

One anonymous mom wrote on Mumnet that she slapped her daughter in face for rude behavior but felt horrible after. She wrote:

I lost my temper, I know it is no excuse but when she is rude it hurts me so much and I lost it.

Joyce Maynard admitted in an article on Parenting.com that she has reached a boiling point and struck her kids. Maynard wrote:

Each of the times I’ve struck one of my kids, my actions have come in response to actions of theirs that did, in fact, deserve to be challenged.

But each time I’ve ended up apologizing, instead of extracting the apology their actions warranted.  

She encouraged parents to talk to kids after a hitting incident:

This won’t undo the experience. But where hitting him tears the two of you apart, hugging him, telling him you’re sorry, and letting him tell you how he feels can bring you back together.

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There’s no magic solution, of course, but the risk of hitting a child is substantially diminished once you’ve made a conscious decision to pursue an alternative response to anger. 

She advised parents to set limits before getting angry to avoid hitting children. 

However, according to Psychology Today

A large meta-analysis of studies on the effects of punishment found that the more physical punishment children receive, the more defiant they are toward parents and authorities, the poorer their relationships with parents, the more likely they are to report hitting a dating partner or spouse. They are also more likely to suffer mental health problems, such as anxiety, depression, and substance abuse problems, and less likely to empathize with others or internalize norms of moral behavior.

Psychology Today also points out that hitting children may teach them that hitting those who are smaller and weaker “is an acceptable way of getting what you want from them.”

In regards to the mom in the video, many users on social media agreed with her actions.

About the author

Tiffani is a writer for Dearly. She is from New York City. Prior to working for Dearly she covered fashion news and managed social media for various digital media outlets.

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