While on the popular British talk show, “This Morning,” one mom created a bit of controversy when she discussed the topic of consent.

According to mom of two Lottie Daley, she believes it’s imperative to ask for her children’s consent before changing their diaper, washing their bottoms, or tickling them.

The talk show then asked the question, “Should tickling should be made illegal?”

According to the Mirror, the topic of tickling being made illegal became a conversation after British actor, Russell Brand, said he “would ‘punch’ anyone who tried to tickle his daughters.”

Lottie, who is a friend of Brand, then went on “This Morning” to discuss the topic a little further.

She said:

“On the face of it, of course, what’s wrong with a tickle, everybody does it. I’ve been guilty of the same until I knew better.

But when you actually start learning about body autonomy and consent for our children when they become a little bit older, we realize actually we should be modeling this behavior from birth, including letting your baby know you are changing its nappy…”

The mom said that by telling her children she is going to change her diaper, it’s teaching them what consent is for when they are older.

Daley continued:

“I want her to know that it’s her body. It’s not a case of them saying ‘yes, mom’ or ‘no, mom’ it’s modeling that repetition and that sort of habit of checking in with your children and making sure that they are happy with what you are doing with them. […]

When I’m washing my daughters, who are a bit older, they are seven and five, when I’ve got to wash their bottoms, I do say, ‘Can mummy just wash your bottom?’ because sometimes you have to. And they say, ‘yes’ or ‘no.'”

Daley also added that while her kids have told her that they think it’s fun when she tickles them, it would be weird for them if a stranger did so.

However, Twitter users who watched the show were very upset by the topic, many sharing their own opinions as well:

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12 Replies to “People Are up in Arms After Mom Says Parents Should Ask for Consent Before Changing Children’s Diaper”

  • Chrissy 1 year ago

    I think we should all quit giving press to nutcases. New Moms who haven’t made it to the teenage years have no weight on upbringing. Let’s have some opinions from those who’ve raised healthy, successful, give back to society, children. What’s that- can’t find many? Just a bunch of spoiled millennials running around? Imagine that. The over 45 crowd has no experience? Welcome to your nightmare you created. Unfortunately we all have to cater/live with these monsters.

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  • sm 1 year ago

    Agee with the Twitter commentator who sd. the world has gone “freaking crazy…!” Really, tickling can go too far – but consent, from, say, a newborn before changing them…?! Nuts.

  • Craig Murphy 1 year ago

    When you got to go, you got to go. When you got to change a diaper, you got to change a diaper. Adults see things that need to be done and do them. No permission required.

  • David Gonzalez 1 year ago

    You gotta figure something is wrong with this woman. Her other kids are 5 and 7. She still bathes them? Why? My daughters could wash themselves well before those ages. Seems to be something she has issues with. As well as lack in parenting skills. Lacking those, a LOT!!

  • SoSad 1 year ago

    I think we should outlaw vapid TV shows that spew ignorance at maximum flow. Outlaw idiots on TV. Bring back state mental facilities – most of these nutjobs need to be talking to a shrink, not the public.

  • Gerald Cline 1 year ago

    You have to wonder if these people have ever had any experience with a baby. The kid is crying. It is uncomfortable. It WANTS to have its dippers changed. Whey do these idiots think the baby is crying? To protest social injustice? They are not just ignorant. They are being willfully STUPID…!?!?!

  • Kathy 1 year ago

    OMG you fuc$ing people…as in snowflake liberal millennials… are out of your minds! At 65 I will be glad when it’s my time to leave this earth!! I feel so sorry for people like my kids and grandchildren who will have to deal with your whiny fucked up attitudes! Your children and grandchildren will be so coddled they won’t be able to figure out how to live!! I hate tickling but a little tickle never killed a soul that I know of!! As for asking to change your kids diaper?? Are you KIDDING ME?????? Jesus, and if they can’t answer what then? You leave them in a diaper soaking wet or worse??? Dear God….please take me now!!

  • MariaRose 1 year ago

    Once a child is toilet trained, the only cleaning a parent should have to do is make sure they get in the bath/shower properly, plus the children should have been taught how to clean themselves without aid. Parents should supervise but don’t need to personally clean their children past certain ages. Does this mother intend on bathing her children all the way to adulthood? No wonder we have to have adulting classes since parents don’t let their children learn.

  • ALC 1 year ago

    Wait, wait, wait a minute. She said her daughter’s body is hers. So she is admitting she is a separate being. The 5 & 7 year old did not just suddenly become 5 &7. They were Preschoolers and toddlers and infants and newborns and then *gasp* fetuses. When they were in mom’s womb, they were their own individual person not an extension of mom. Their own being, their own unique DNA, their own fingerprints, their own organs.

  • YouWish 1 year ago

    As a parent of 5, I don’t understand why is everyone so up in arms over the idea of treating human children – even infants – like living things with the ability to think and feel? Anything with a consciousness is capable of experiencing both positive and negative sensations – what is the reasoning behind rage of suggesting that you treat children with the same respect you are supposed to treat an adult?
    Is it really that hard to go out of your way not think of a child as an unthinking, unfeeling, inanimate object that you are required to DO things TO, instead of do things for?

    Some of my children enjoy tickling. Some don’t. I ask before I tickle, and I stop when they say stop. When I bathe my toddlers, I don’t just fucking go in with the soap and washcloth and abruptly scrub their body parts – I TELL them what I am doing first. Its just fucking respectful.

    The same people that have a problem with being respectful of children are the same people that violently catcall women and then harass them when their advances are ignored, kill animals for fun, think that rape is justified, and see brown people as less worthy than an animal.

    • Anonymous 1 year ago

      Hmmm, you side stepped the “ask permission” to change a diaper which was the focus of the article. Remember these infants don’t yet speak, so consent or non consent can’t be given. Did you wait for all 5 of your children to learn to speak before changing them. Your “f***ing respectful” says more about you than you know. Your last paragraph makes no sense at all.

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