When Isaiah Pasefika lost his father to cancer in January he was given a necklace holding his late dad’s ashes and wore it every day since he had gotten it.

Then the one day, he decided to take it off to be safe. But he quickly realized it was gone and thought he had lost it forever.

The California teen told KSWB he felt this sinking feeling in his stomach after losing a gold cross containing his dad’s remains.


The California teen was at a beach swimming recently and before getting into the ocean, he thought he placed the necklace safely in his bag but when he went to put it back on, he couldn’t find it. He said:

“It’s not a fun feeling. thought to myself, ‘There’s no way. The sand’s going to cover it. It’s moving everywhere. Someone probably found it already.’”

Little did he know an 11-year-old girl found his necklace in the sand a week later and she and her mom were on a mission to return it to the owner.


Pamela Cuthbertson said her daughter, Abbie Cuthberston, was digging through sand and found a necklace, but noticed the inscription around it said: “in loving memory.”

Pamela, who also lost one of her parents, had a similar necklace and realized what it was. She told the station:

“I also have one of those necklaces with my own parents’ ashes in it and I just thought if that was me who lost that I would need someone to find it and get it back to me.”

When she got home, she and Abbie tried to locate the owner on social media and shared a post.

Posted by Pamela Cuthbertson on Sunday, April 14, 2019

Pamela said:

“I woke up on Monday morning and it had like way over 600 shares just from my own page. And I was like wow, that’s amazing. And then by 2 pm on Monday afternoon, I got a private message from someone saying ‘hey, I think I know who this belongs to’.”

The necklace was returned to Pasefika. The two families said they shared an emotional moment following the ordeal.


Pamela said when she found the owner of the necklace, “I was so excited. I was crying uncontrollably.”

Pasefika placed the cross back around his neck and said:

“I know he’s watching over me right now smiling at this moment and he’s back home. He’s with me. I’m just so thankful.”

The families said they’re now bonded and plan on getting together in the future.

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About the author

Tiffani is a writer for Dearly. She is from New York City. Prior to working for Dearly she covered fashion news and managed social media for various digital media outlets.

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