Two months ago, John Cena and Nikki Bella announced their break up just weeks before they were set to get married.
Following the split, Cena and Bella went on the Today Show separately to each share their side of the story. In the end, they both admitted that they still have immense love for each other and hoped to reconcile in the future.
Now fans are getting a chance to watch the break up unfold on their E! reality show, “Total Bellas.”
Cena has been open about not wanting kids throughout their six year relationship. Although Bella wanted kids, she thought she would be fine without them if it meant she got to marry the love of her life.
Last week, the show highlighted a conversation Cena and Bella had about kids while on a date. Bella told Cena:
“I don’t think date nights could ever get old, but I think so many years down the road, to keep things exciting, I think kids help that in a relationship. I just I see the point of kids after you been with someone for so long.”
At first, Cena took that to mean that Bella sees herself getting bored of him down the road. So he gave her a hypothetical situation.
The 40-year-old asked Bella what she would do if they did down the road have a child together, after which she realizes that “not having kids” wasn’t the problem and then starts “resenting” him. He said:
“So I am talking to you tonight and I’m trying to ask all these difficult questions because I don’t know if you’re just upset that you’re not going to be a mom or you have fallen out of love with me, because it kind of feels like both.”
Bella was initially taken aback by his statement but assured him that the way she has been feeling over the last three months is only because of her dreams of becoming a mom and not because she has fallen out of love with him.
She then explained why becoming a mom and having a baby with Cena was so important to her:
“To constantly wake up and look at this beautiful thing that I made and to teach him new things. […] I feel like there is so much more I want to do with you and experience with you. It’s just wanting to be a mom and knowing that you will not be a dad. So it’s me who has stuck around thinking that I can be okay with it and I’ve just come to the realization that I can’t, I’m not okay with it.”
After hearing Bella out, Cena then agreed to become father.
He told Bella:
“I can’t have you out of my life, ever. I want to marry you and relationships and marriage, especially, is about sacrifice and I will make that sacrifice for you. I will give you a child.”
Many fans of the show took issue with Cena’s words:
They both don’t get it. He is “making a sacrifice and she “I just wants to be a mom, to constantly wake up and look at this beautiful thing that I MADE.” They are both thinking about themselves not as a couple. Move on, you’ll regret it later and the kids will be the one to suffer
[In my humble opinion], his sacrifice sounds like ok I’ll do you the favor of having a child with you. I’m sorry he sounds fake. If he doesn’t want kids that’s his choice she knew this when she accepted the marriage proposal. I think she should just move on with someone who really wants kids.
He’ll feel nothing but resentment if he thinks having a child for someone else is a sacrifice. Just don’t do it. It’s better to go your separate ways instead of having a child for all the wrong reasons.
This made me not like Cena anymore! Sacrifice!!! Really!!! I would have walked out! Don’t do it!!!
Having a baby should not be the sole reason for staying in or leaving a relationship. Babies are human beings, not pawn in some game. Nor should they be an “ultimatum” in ANY way.
Imaging if they do have a baby…How IN LOVE John is going to be when he sees the baby for the first time? He will then regret calling it a sacrifice
Some did agree with Cena, saying kids are a sacrifice in more ways than one:
Being a parent is a huge sacrifice. You sacrifice your personal time, your time with your partner alone, sleep, energy, money. He’s choosing to go into this with his eyes wide open. Children are worth it. This is beautiful that he loves her enough to give her what she needs. I wish them both the best!!
I don’t see it negatively because having children is a sacrifice everyday. You have to let go of things you might have done as a person with no children, but he is going to see once that child is born that those sacrifices are worth making because that child will light up his world.
Years ago, Cena underwent a vasectomy; he would have to undergo a procedure to reverse it before he and Bella try for a child.
What did you all think of @totalbellas tonight? Loved getting that Mom training with Birdie and loved seeing the end, definitely hard to relive, but missing these moments so much ❤️ Guess only time can tell what will happen next. If you missed it tune in later only on E! Hope you enjoy it West Coasters!! And MITBers! #totalbellas #birdiencoco #briemode #fearlessnikki #bellaarmy #nena
People reports that as of earlier this month, the couple is “officially back together.”