Jessa Seewald made a point about the illusion of social media, but it didn’t go quite as expected when the “Counting On” star gave fans a glimpse into her less-than-perfect home. Or, as some would go on to comment, a home that’s “downright nasty.”

“This is real life, ya’ll,” reads the caption to a series of photos giving followers a look at what life is really like for the Duggar family reality star when there is a mountain of housework piling up — but a toddler and a baby need their mommy. Seewald wrote:

1.) 6+ loads of laundry piled on the guest bed… can we just take a moment to celebrate the fact that it’s CLEAN laundry. ?


2.) Side table that probably hasn’t been dusted in at least 6 months.


3.) Henry’s dried spit up on my side of the bed, that I’ve slept on for who knows how many nights.


4.) Handprints on the mirror, and Spurgeon’s beautiful artwork that happened when he found a pen that was left out.


5.) Pile of diapers on the top of my dresser… pretty sure these all collected in the past 12 hours.


6.) Blocks scattered again, not bc Spurgeon was building with them… just bc it’s like his favorite thing to dump them out and hear them clang on the hardwood floors. Haha!


7.) Sink full of dishes.


8.) Oil splatters and food particles on the stovetop. Probably has been a few months since it’s been wiped down.


9.) Toddler handprint on the fridge door. ?


10.) Dust collection on the front of the HVAC intake…ha! But hey, at least we’re replacing the filter every month! ?


Seewald’s point in posting the photos was to offer a reminder that at the end of the day, it’s not how much time was spent crossing items off a never-ending “to do” list that matters, but how much time was spent creating lasting memories:

My reminder today has been that the same is true of the needs of the little people in our lives. I might think “I don’t have time right now.” But it only takes a few min… here and there. A few mins here, spent cuddling a fussy baby. A few mins there, singing lullabies as a toddler drifts off to sleep. 5 mins here, to read a book. 10 min there, engaging in imaginative play. Not trying to pit a clean house against interaction with kids— sometimes both are possible, tho often they do seem in opposition to one another ?. Just remember, whatever projects are pulling at your time and attention today, don’t forget to make time for the people around you. These are the memories that will last forever. ??

Despite Seewald’s best intentions to show the truth behind the “highlight reel” of social media, a lot of commenters were taken aback by the state of Seewald’s home. Many commenters accused the mother of two of being “lazy” and downright “gross”:

finy_s wrote there are no excuses to keep a home in that condition:

Not to put anyone down I’m a full time working mom and my husband works 10 hrs per day as well but we will never leave a pile of diapers out in the table like that. What’s going on???? IDC, NO EXCUSE for that. It’s so unsanitary.

mrsdbeaty also said there was no excuse for being “filthy”:

The toys & clothes ok she gets a pass but everything else is just her being nasty & lazy. It is not that hard or time consuming to throw & dirty diaper in the trash. & ewww you have to sleep in that bed!! ? you damn right we judging. There’s no excuse for being filthy & proud of it.

monti31579 agreed that having two children wasn’t a good enough reason for the mess:

I don’t like to judge other moms, but I will say this I am a single mom of 2 and some of this just isn’t healthy. I I understand dust, fingerprints, dishes and laundry, I get it I feel ya. But what I don’t understand is not cleaning spit up, and not throwing away diapers. Come on girl you had time to take and post these pics but not to throw diapers away or wash your sheets. Personally I see that as lazy. I have 2 and my house is usually clean.

courtneyvreeman advised Seewald to get her house in order ASAP:

kids are a sad excuse for a dirty house. messy okay, i get it. i have two toddlers and work full time from home. my house can get messy. but THIS is downright nasty. stop using kids as an excuse for being lazy. put those piss and sh*t filled diapers in the trash. clean the dust and change your air filter. your kids are breathing that air. i normally never chime in on these things but this is not “real life” this is gross. hire a house keeper. do what you have to.

hotgranny_60 said Seewald should be “ashamed” of herself:

Girl I know people haven up to 5+ kids and you can eat off there floor how clean there house is. You should be a shame of your self to even show that pic of those dirty Pamper what were you going to do with them use them again . didn’t your mom show you how to kept a house.

And ctopher713 suggested the mess was so bad the authorities should get involved:

Someone should really call DCF on you. Piles of clean laundry is one thing but piles of dirty diapers and disgusting and a health hazard. My sister is a single mother of four with a dog and a pig and her house has never looked like this. No excuse.

While many commenters came to Seewald’s defense, identifying with a mother of two who might — by the slightest chance — be overwhelmed, many commenters just couldn’t get past the stack of dirty diapers:

krisseyxoxo said:

Dirty diapers are a potential health hazard. Get a damn diaper genie.

medicenmele added:

@nonnyto2 there is time for everything in a day, even putting diapers in a bag doesn’t take much more than two minutes… people just love mess.

gioviss83 wrote in part:

Take a moment and imagine how many bacterias and virus you let to stay at your home having all those diapers.

Seewald stood by her decision to share the very real condition of her home, addressing the firestorm of negative comments by writing in part:

I could’ve waited 24 hrs and posted pics of everything freshly cleaned and looking beautiful (the stovetop is sparkling, dust bunnies have been removed, laundry is folded, bed sheets are washed, etc). Certainly people would find no fault with that… but many may find fault with themselves. I didn’t do that for a reason. Reality.
Sometimes you find yourself with an 8-month-old who isn’t sleeping through the night, and you don’t care that your bed has spit up on it–you’re tired. Throw a towel down on it and sleep! Sometimes you don’t want to wash the dishes right after supper because your husband is finally home from work, and there’s only one golden hour of family time before babies are tucked into bed and hubby has to start in on his college homework… and so you put off dishes until then.
Sometimes the dust collects on the side table in the spare room, and you don’t even notice it until you’re preparing for guests to stay over.
Oh, and the diapers. ? Our diaper pail is currently outta commission, and I’m awaiting a replacement. Yeah, they were stinky, but I had them bagged up and out of the house before the pic of them was even posted.
I said it before, and I’ll say it again: “I am not trying to pit a clean house against interaction with kids.” I believe in, and value, both.
I really should’ve split that post into two, because it is not an either/or, but both/and. ———
Here was my thought process on the second half of what I wrote. “I know it only takes a few minutes here and there to wipe a mirror or dust a nightstand, and I am making these things priority today. I’m also going to deep clean the bathroom, re-sweep the entire house, pick up the living room, and clean out the fridge. Nothing is going to stop me from accomplishing my to-do list!” Naptime zips by, and then I hear a little voice saying “Mommy, I hold you!” *Instagram, I need more space to finish my thought!*?
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