When it comes to unsolicited parenting advice, Jennifer Lopez said like many people she was completely misguided when she frowned upon her friends’ parenting style before having her own kids.

“I’m so sorry I didn’t understand,” said Lopez during a “Twin Talk” with Emme and Max on her Youtube channel.

The mother of two now admits people without children have no business offering parenting “guidance” or pearls of wisdom on how to raise kids until they’ve had their own. Regardless of the well-meaning advice, it’s your baby, and each parent should raise their child in the way they think is best.

Lopez, 49, said she “literally” apologized to all her friends after becoming a mom because her expectations of motherhood changed after giving birth.

She explained:

“I remember I used to give my friends who had kids advice all the time and they would look at me like I had three heads. And when I had you two, the minute I had you two, I literally apologized to all my friends.”

The mom continued, “I’m so sorry I didn’t understand what it is to have a child and everything I ever said to you about raising kids, forget it and I’m sorry and that’s a true story.”

According to The List, parents shared the top advice they always hear from non-parents:

  1. You should be more strict.
  2. You should feed your kids organic and make them less sensitive to food allergies
  3. You should or shouldn’t breastfeed.
  4. You should or shouldn’t let your baby cry.
  5. You shouldn’t coddle your kids.
  6. You should pick a more appropriate outfit.
  7. You should or shouldn’t let them watch TV or spend lots of time on a tablet or computer.

Lopez said as a mom, “you realize that the love you have for your kids is so deep that all the normal rules for other people don’t apply.”

She added:

“You cannot imagine what it’s like to be a mom until you are a mom.”

What do you think about people giving unwanted advice?

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Tiffani is a writer for Dearly. She is from New York City. Prior to working for Dearly she covered fashion news and managed social media for various digital media outlets.

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