Actress Jennifer Garner shared a hilarious note from her 9-year-old daughter and many moms said they could totally relate.

The mom-of-three decided to make light of angry note her daughter Seraphina Rose Elizabeth scribbled in blue marker on a torn piece of paper.

Garner wrote:

Is this a nine-year-old burn? Or the ultimate compliment? #funkillingmom #illtakealovenotehoweveritcomes

The second oldest of Garner’s three children with ex-husband Ben Affleck gave moms on Instagram a good chuckle.

As with many other parenting decisions, the actress wondered if her daughter just gave her the best compliment ever or the ultimate insult.

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Swipe to see! I’m a big fan of homemade pizza—made in the oven, on the grill, or waiting in the freezer for just the right moment—I mean, who isn’t? ??‍♀️ I like a lot of pizza dough recipes out there— @cooksIllustrated’s, @gwynethpaltrow’s, but when I’m starting with a house full of hungry kids (?!) I use @melskitchencafe’s. Really, with any of these, you can’t go wrong. Years ago I rolled out extra dough, brushed it with olive oil, sprinkled it with crushed dry thyme, rosemary and a good dose of salt and my family’s favorite bread was born. The kids call it #pizzacracker and it is my family’s top request. ????‍♀️ . . . Mel’s Kitchen Cafe’s Foolproof Pizza Dough Ingredients: 1 cup warm water 1 tablespoon honey 1 tablespoon oil 1 tablespoon instant yeast 2-3 cups flour (any combination of bread, all purpose, whole wheat) 1 teaspoon salt For the top— sprinkle of olive oil, big dash of salt, dried rosemary and thyme . . . 1. In a large bowl or in the bowl of an electric stand mixer fitted with the dough hook, mix the water, honey, oil, yeast and salt. Add the flour gradually until a soft dough forms and pulls away from the sides of the bowl. The exact flour amount will vary so go by the touch and feel of the dough versus the exact cup measurements in the recipe. The dough should be soft and smooth (but if I have to pick, I’d choose slightly sticky over stiff). 2. Knead the dough for 2-3 minutes (more like 5-6 minutes if kneading by hand or if using whole wheat flour). 3. Let the dough rest, covered, for 10 minutes. 4. Pinch off a chunk of dough the size of your fist and stretch or roll it as thin as possible. It has to be thin to bubble, and the oven has to be HOT! ? 5. Bake at 475 or 500 degrees on a preheated pizza stone or on a lightly greased baking sheet for 8-10 minutes. Keep an eye, because once it starts to bubble and brown it can be done in an instant. 6. Use leftover dough to make pizzas….? 7. Yum

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Moms had an overwhelming response to the post, saying Garner shouldn’t have that gnawing feeling of mom guilt over the note.

Commenters wrote:

This is amazing!!!! I am known as ‘the fun-sucker’ in my house! I will wear that badge proudly.

Ooooo. I’m a “fun sponge” according to my 9 & 11 year olds! I’m good with it!

My children and their dad nicknamed me the NFL…. Master of the No Fun League. Love this. Mean mom….the best compliment ever. From the mom of two now adult girls, the struggle is real and may the force be with you.

Just means you are doing your job well.

As previously reported by Dearly, Garner’s not the first celeb to open up about her daughter resorting to dramatic antics when she doesn’t get her way.

Kristen Bell recently shared about her 3-year-old’s tantrums and how she’s perceived as a mean mom at times.

However, according to Focus on the Family, if “mean” denotes creating boundaries, teaching children life skills, giving them chores and responsibilities, then moms should take pride in a job well done.

In an article titled, Why Kids Need Mean Moms, Joanne Kraft wrote:

As moms, our job is to work ourselves out of a job. It’s not mean to give children chores or let them fail. It’s not mean to follow through with serious consequences if they’re disrespectful or misbehave …

Mom seems to be in agreement “fun-killer” may be exactly what Garner’s 9-year-old needs at this point in her life.

About the author

Tiffani is a writer for Dearly. She is from New York City. Prior to working for Dearly she covered fashion news and managed social media for various digital media outlets.

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