Just 14 days ago, former “Married At First Sight” stars Jamie Otis and Doug Hehner excitedly announced that they were expecting their second child together.
The joyful announcement came after years of loss and struggling to conceive.
Over the last few years, Jamie has opened up about the miscarriage and chemical pregnancy she and Doug were forced to endure over the years.
However, in between those two heartbreaking losses, the couple welcomed a rainbow baby when their daughter, Henley Grace, was born in August 2017.
As Dearly previously reported, on December 26, 2018, Jamie and Doug announced that they were eight weeks pregnant and that their daughter was about to be a big sister.
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WE ARE SO, SO, SOOO happy to share this amazing news!!! I’m pregnant!✨??? • We wanted to surprise you guys so we saved our pregnancy news for Christmas Day & shared it as a gift to you on the launch of our podcast, @hotmarriagecoolparents!?? Which btw is #7 on the iTunes top 200 chart and it’s #1 (IN FIVE COUNTRIES!!!) on the kids and family chart!?? What?!?! THANK YOU!!!!??? • If you haven’t listened yet, you’re seriously missing out on the most embarrassing poo story in the history of poo stories!??? Head to link in my bio to listen to us chat all about baby #2 (3 if you count angel babies in heaven???) on the podcast! Yayyyy! We hope you all had a very Merry Christmas!??✨ • This Christmas was even more magical than last year – which was our first with Gracie so I didn’t think anything could top that!????? • #sothankful #grateful #blessed #pregnant #woohoo #babyfever #firsttrimester #8weekspregnant #bigsister #bigsisterannouncement #bestbigsister #podcast #podcasters #podcastersofinstagram
And over the last two weeks, Jamie has proudly shared updates on how her pregnancy had been progressing.
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9 weeks today!!??✨I cannot wait to find out if our little miracle is a boy or girl!???? • • #pregnant #preggo #preggers #9weeks #firsttrimester #miracle #baby #momlife #family #girlmom #growingfamily #love #mommyandme #babybump #bumppic #bumpin #pregnancyjourney #bestgiftever
Sadly, it was during her 10-week update when Jamie opened up that she had begun to bleed and that the ultrasound technician was unable to find a heartbeat.
Nonetheless, the mom remained optimistic:
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Food-baby or baby-baby ?!??? #10weekspregnant today! ✨?? • Tomorrow is our first official ultrasound with my midwife. We cannot wait to see this little nugget and hear his/her heartbeat!???? • We went to a ultrasound place to get confirmation at 6 weeks pregnant bc I felt like I couldn’t wait any longer. Lol Everything looked great!???? • I began bleeding (super mild – not too concerning) end of week 6 through 8 weeks. I had mild cramps, too. I’ve been eager to hear this kiddos heart beat and know all is well & it seemed like my doc appointment was so far away so I tried finding it on a Doppler for reassurance. • Now, I’m a labor and delivery nurse. I know it’s likely way too early to find the heartbeat on the Doppler…so when I couldn’t find the heartbeat the rational me was like “of course not. It’s ok!” But the irrational me was like “GO GET CHECKED OUT.” • I didn’t wanna be overly dramatic and call my midwife saying i couldn’t find the heartbeat…she’d be like, “yeah, no kidding!” So I went back to the ultrasound place for reassurance from the ultrasound tech. • We got there & she wasn’t able to pick up the heart beat or see the baby? • My only hope is that the reason she wasn’t able to find it is because she goes on the belly and at this early stage of pregnancy the baby is best found when the ultrasound is performed vaginally.?? ….I’m hoping you guys could send out some positive vibes and prayers for us as we go into our ultrasound appointment with our midwife tomorrow…I’m not bleeding, not cramping so I feel like there is definitely hope.????? • #pregnancyjourney #preggers #preggo #momlife #pregnancy #firsttrimester #10weeks #almost #secondtrimester #send #prayers #and #babydust #positivevibesonly #positivethoughts #thinkpositive #prayerrequest ✨???
She wrote, in part:
My only hope is that the reason she wasn’t able to find it is because she goes on the belly and at this early stage of pregnancy the baby is best found when the ultrasound is performed vaginally. ….I’m hoping you guys could send out some positive vibes and prayers for us as we go into our ultrasound appointment with our midwife tomorrow…I’m not bleeding, not cramping so I feel like there is definitely hope.
Unfortunately, the following day, Jamie revealed that she had suffered a “failed miscarriage.”
The mom explained that their “baby formed and there was an amniotic sac, but while the amniotic sac continued to grow the baby stopped at some point.”
We had three options. 1) Wait for my body to miscarry our baby naturally. 2) Go to the hospital and have a D&C. 3) Take medication to help my body miscarry quicker.
I really don’t want to have to go to the OR and have a D&C for obvious reasons. I’d love for my body to just naturally take the proper course, but since we don’t know how long that would take and since there’s a small risk for infection I opted to take the medicine and hope and pray it works so I don’t have to have a D&C.
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I think the worst of it is finally over.?? • We left the doctors office around 1:30 yesterday with the medicine in. (The doc places it at your cervix and then you have to lie down for 15-30 min to make sure your body absorbs it all.) I was wondering when and if the medication would work since I was further along so I knew it wasn’t guaranteed to work. But I really don’t want to have to have a D&C.?? We went to my in laws to pick up @henleygracehehner and when we came home I had mild cramps but nothing abnormal really. • Around 7pm I began getting the most sharp, excruciating pains all throughout my belly and my back. I’ll spare you the details of what it was like when I went to the bathroom.? • All night long I was curled up in fetal position with heating pads on my back and belly. Gracie slept angelically through the night. Almost like she knew mama and dada were sad and in pain and needed a night.??? • My hubby was by my side for every.single.moment of the stabbing pains and runs to the bathroom. I don’t know what I did to deserve such a loving, kind, thoughtful man but I am so, so thankful for you, @doughehner.❤️ • We’re trying our best to stay positive. We’ve made it through this before – RIP our sweet angel baby, Johnathan??? – and we will make it through this too.?? I guess our little Johnny wanted a little brother or sister to play with up in heaven.??❤️?? • Thank you all again for so much support. The love you are sending our way is palpable. We appreciate each and every one of you. We love you guys and are so thankful to know you are thinking of us and praying for us right now. It means more than you’ll ever know.??? • #pregnancy #loss #awareness #miscarriageawareness #angelbaby #rainbowbaby #positivevibes #positivevibesonly #hopeful #mommyhood #pregnancyproblems #miscarriage #pregnancylossawareness #pregnancyloss #support #miscarriagesupport #1in4 #yourenotalone ????
Jamie later explained that the medicine worked:
Around 7pm I began getting the most sharp, excruciating pains all throughout my belly and my back. I’ll spare you the details of what it was like when I went to the bathroom.
All night long I was curled up in fetal position with heating pads on my back and belly. Gracie slept angelically through the night. Almost like she knew mama and dada were sad and in pain and needed a night.
My hubby was by my side for every.single.moment of the stabbing pains and runs to the bathroom. I don’t know what I did to deserve such a loving, kind, thoughtful man but I am so, so thankful for you, Doug.
We’re trying our best to stay positive. We’ve made it through this before – RIP our sweet angel baby, Johnathan – and we will make it through this too. I guess our little Johnny wanted a little brother or sister to play with up in heaven.
Thousands of Jamie’s followers reached out to the grieving couple to offer their condolences and prayers, even sharing their own stories of loss.
Jamie thanked everyone for their positivity and strength.