Former “Dawson’s Creek” star James Van Der Beek knows the importance of a father’s influence on his daughter’s self-esteem. So he set a goal to spend time with his little girl by going on daddy-daughter dates.

The actor advised fellow dads to do the same.

Van Der Beek’s oldest girl, Olivia, is only 8 years old but he hopes that by giving her lots of love and quality time with him, she’ll be able to “make that call” for herself one-day when finding a future romantic partner that treats her well.

The dad of five shared a post about feathers “dating” their daughters on Instagram.

He wrote:

So… here’s my working theory: Dads, date your daughters. Drive responsibly, put down your phone, invest in everything they have to say and treat them like they’re the most valuable human in the room, if not the world.

Van Der Beek continued to share his theory:

Once they start dating for real, they’ll have a bar… and anyone who doesn’t meet that bar, you won’t have to tell them – they’ll make that call for themselves. #DateNight #SetTheBarHigh.

He ended his post by stating he would tell fans “in about ten or fifteen years if this actually works.”

While most fans praised the father for his commitment to fatherhood. Some shared a different reaction to the overall idea of daddy-daughter dates.

One commenter said she didn’t like the idea of sexualizing girls. She wrote:

I love where your head is at, but you don’t need to date your daughter. (Everyone tries to sexualize us girls, which isn’t what you’re trying to do, but a different frame of reference would be better…why do people have to date us in order to find us valuable? Do men need to be dated to have value? Are you dating your sons? …

According to Romper, some women think the idea is “creepy” and enforces “patriarchal notions of femininity.”

Van Der Beek and his wife, Kimberly, are also the parents Joshua, 7, Annabel, 5, Emilia, 3, and Gwendolyn, 11 months.

What do you think about a dad taking his daughter on a “date?”

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Tiffani is a writer for Dearly. She is from New York City. Prior to working for Dearly she covered fashion news and managed social media for various digital media outlets.

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