After posting a video of her daughter playing on a jungle gym, an alum of “The Bachelor” received a message that rubbed her the wrong way.
On July 11, Jade Roper Tolbert revealed a message she received from a follower.
The message was in response to the video she had recently posted of her almost 2-year-old daughter Emerson playing on a jungle gym. It read:
So cute! But how old is she? She’s kind of showing signs of autism. Just thinking. She’s so precious!!!!!
Tolbert, who is currently pregnant with her second child, screenshotted the message and shared her response with the rest of her followers.
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I usually remember every year, but yesterday I forgot!! ? Blaming it on chasing a toddler and that third trimester pregnancy brain! Four years ago yesterday, we took a chance on love and got engaged on a beach, and now here we are, @tanner.tolbert! We’ve been through our shares of ups and downs, but we have a beautiful family and each other and I think that makes us pretty lucky. Love ya!! ??
As the soon-t0-be mom of two explained, “these are NOT okay messages to send to people”:
If you all mean well, it’s still not ok to say she has Autism or needs speech therapy or to comment any sort of thing like that to anyone about heir child. We are her parents, we have a great pediatrician, and we know her development. Comments like this really throw me for a loop.
However, some of her followers thought Tolbert shouldn’t be mad at people sharing their opinions with her because she’s the one sharing videos of her daughter.
The commenter wrote:
What’s the point of posting than? ……… the public notice YOUR post that YOUR daughter doesn’t speak…… say thanks and move on or you’re defensive cuz you’re afraid she really isn’t speaking who knows but if you post things it IS OKAY to comment.
To which Tolbert responded:
I’m saying people would never come up to someone in public and say these things, there needs to be some sort of internet etiquette, you don’t get to go rogue because you’re behind a keyboard.
Also my daughter says plenty of words. I share parts of my life to bring joy and because they bring me joy. But she is not a monkey to dance for you (or in this case to show you how many words she knows/doesn’t know).
The mom later added that she’s “just going to assume the people commenting these things are NOT parents, because they clearly don’t have a clue.”
What do you think? Should Tolbert have to be okay with comments like these?