Though actress Jada Pinkett Smith’s marriage to Will Smith often seems picture perfect, she says it hasn’t always been easy.

On a new episode of her web series “Red Table Talk,” the 47-year-old admitted that their marriage was once on the rocks when she decided that she was tired of living “his dream.”

Jada said she first realized their relationship was in trouble when having a traditional marriage wasn’t working, People reports. She explained:

“You have to be the perfect wife, you have to be the source that supports his dreams, no matter what it is, whatever he wants to build you’re there to support that.”

She continued:

“Our whole life looked like his dream. I’m his energy source. That’s great, but I’ve got to create part of this life that is designed and looks like me.”

The mom of two said she wanted to find autonomy in their relationship and that felt like a major blow to her husband. Jada added:

“He felt abandoned at first, he felt really abandoned. You never want to hurt the person that you love. You never want to create instability that way.”

Jada attributed some of the struggles to “little girl trauma” stemming from her relationship with her father. She said:

“It has been one of the most excruciating processes of my life. I’ve wanted to personally break out of Will needing to be something for me because I felt like that was so unfair. And a lot of it had to do with my father issues. I just realized one day, ‘This man is not your father!’”

In an October episode of the show, Will said that devastated even worse than a divorce when they went through a difficult period in their relationship:

“We broke up within our marriage and got back together again. We had to rebuild with new rules and something way, completely different.”

Thankfully, it seems the couple is still going strong after more than two decades of marriage.

Watch the episode of “Red Table Talk” below:

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Posted by Red Table Talk on Friday, June 7, 2019

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