A Tennessee mom first gave her 12-year-old son’s school permission to use corporal punishment on him in October when he was acting out.

But now, she has regrets after the school paddled her son for a second time, according to WZTV.

Ashley Lauer said the middle school asked if they could use corporal punishment on her boy, Joey, again in November.

She agreed because her own methods of discipline at home weren’t working, she admitted:

“I agreed to it because nothing else was working at home. He wasn’t turning in his homework, he was doing it, but wasn’t turning it in. So I figured, well, let’s try that and see if that works, and then he came home with the marks.”

Lauer said that her son wasn’t hurt the first time he was paddled but returned home the second time with bruises and marks.

She said her boy was left in tears for days. Lauer told WZTV:

“I understand I agreed for him to get the corporal punishment. I didn’t think this would be the end result. And for him to be in tears and upset and not being able to sit comfortably on hard surfaces for days after, it was not necessary.”

The mother reported her son’s injuries to the Department of Children’s Services, but it was determined the principal followed proper protocol for the punishment.

According to Tennessee law, spanking, slapping, and other forms of physical punishment are legal as long as they’re “reasonable” and for a “good cause.”

Only punishments deemed “unreasonable or unnecessary” can be considered abusive.

Lauer is now warning parents after she said officials at Macon County Junior High School overstepped the boundaries:

“Just, I wouldn’t agree to it. Try and deal with it at home, otherwise you could end up with this result. I wish I would’ve said no and just tried another method.”

The school district said that corporal punishment is always used as a last resort.

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23 Replies to “‘It Was Not Necessary’: Mom Says School Badly Bruised 12-Year-Old Son During Corporal Punishment”

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    i bet he doesnt act up in school anymore

  • anonymous 2 years ago

    I think there are many children in public schools who need a good spanking. Too bad the parents haven’t given them the discipline they need.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    WOW!!! I’m sure glad you weren’t my parents. I was raised with love and never got into trouble, never was beaten and bruised. There’s something wrong if you have to beat a child into submission. Where’s the love you pieces of garbage? If I did not have love, I would be a bad person too. Think about that you who think beating a child is the last resort.

    • Anonymous 2 years ago

      WOW!!!! What narrow thinking you have to see that a spanking is abuse or lack of love. That is why we have so many children that will say and do some of the most horrible things to other children and adults. They know there is no consequences of any kind. If there were consequences to these children’s actions maybe our society wouldn’t be such a mess.

    • Anonymous 2 years ago

      I agree

    • Zane 2 years ago

      I was only spanked when I was 6 and under, and never harshly. I was never beaten with a paddle, frying pan, or flyswatter. I was never spanked for more than 30 seconds, at an absolute maximum. I never had trouble with bruises or sitting anywhere. The pain was negligible. More than anything, it was the humiliation of being disciplined in front of my siblings. At 12, I think a person is too old to be spanked. It won’t have the intended effect, and if the pain is harsh enough to leave bruises like that, it will only lead to genuine trauma and hatred of the giver. For him to have experienced this at school is shameful. If the parent had done this (under the argument of “if you’re going to act like a child, I’m going to treat you like one”), they would have known when to stop, and they would have reminded him that although his behavior needs to change, they still love him. If this child didn’t fear and hate school already, he will now.

  • Catherine 2 years ago

    Well, now that she’s publicly declared it was abuse, her son will go back to that bad behavior. She’s not allowing the school to discipline him again. Should’ve let them keep the fear in him. Mom needs to use the paddle too.

    • Cara 2 years ago

      Or have it used on her. All loving parents feel bad when they punish their child, or let them deal with negative consequences. But we have to in order for them to learn. Complaining about your child being disciplined, when you already admitted your ways weren’t working, totally defeats the purpose.
      That being said, that does look excessive, but should have been handled PRIVATELY with the school, without the child even knowing about it.
      Same thing in a marriage or family situation, you can’t tell your spouse not to or discuss how to discipline your child in front of the child. They end up not respecting either of you.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    Why is it that if we spank our kids like that then we go to jail and our kids get taken away?

  • Bunny Heppner 2 years ago

    Boo hoo

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    This is not about a spanking when you leave marks on a child like this it crosses the line so if this happens at the hands of a teacher it’s ok? If a parent left these marks cps jump in with both feet and yanks the kid out of that home calling it abuse should teachers be allowed to go this far I think not stand for your child when this happens let them know this is not ok there is no behavior that deserves this shame on all of you that feels this is acceptable !

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    Mom do you think the law is going to have pity on your child when he’s older and break the laws?

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    I think they went to far

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    it starts at home we need to handle are children at home no one else should put there hands on your children sad he was anbarest we need to keep are kids safe

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    You people that think this is ok are sick. This is an assault where if an adult was left with the marks this boy was there would be charges laid, and possible jail time handed out.

  • Patty Manner 2 years ago

    I don’t hit my kids I don’t want anyone else to either.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    It’s 2019! “Corporal punishment” is being permitted in schools?!?! WHAT?! This needs to be stopped immediately! And the person who did this to this child should be arrested for CHILD ABUSE. This was NOT reasonable at all! This child has now been traumatized and has more to deal with than missing his homework or being oppositional. Hopefully, his parents are smart enough get him into COUNSELING to address the INTERNAL BRUISES that this inflicted – betrayal, hurt, mistrust, anger, fear, shame, and humiliation and don’t just address his external bruises. Unbelievable! This needs to be OUTLAWED immediately!

  • Kathleen Stevens 2 years ago

    Correction is one thing but abuse is another. When you leave marks like that it is called abuse in my book. You ever left marks like that on one of my children and God help you, when I find out who would leave those kind of marks on one of my children, you had better run because you would get the same marks on you. I believe discipline belongs to the parents and again not abuse by them either. I do believe paddle used in discipline does not hurt the child if done in love with the welfare of that child in mind. Again a lot of sick people on here who find those marks to be deserved, no child should look like this, correction is one thing and abuse is another.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    So wrong!!!

  • B villa 2 years ago

    So wrong!!!

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    Hey, I’m all for a kid getting a spanking when needed. I got quite a few when I was growing up, and my parents were awesome. They raised me right, I’ve never been to jail, done drugs, I say yes ma’am and no ma’am, and I’m not scarred at all! In fact, I’m GLAD they did it because I am a decent person. They loved me enough to give me REAL consequences, just like the real world. BUT- and this is important- they NEVER left marks on me, and it NEVER hurt more than a minute or two. Whoever administered this punishment should not be allowed to discipline in this way again. Call in another teacher if you have to, but obviously things got out of control here.

  • Jeanette 2 years ago

    We use to get the strap across the hands. It worked for me. Don’t spare the rod. He should have gotten a paddle on the back side, over the knee to embarrass him at the same time. No bruises just red but.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    These comments sure bring out the abusers amongst us. Let’s beat everyone into submission!!!!

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