In 2017, I graduated from the University of Michigan (Go Blue!), got a full-time job, traveled to Iceland, and moved to a new city (among many other life-shaking milestones).

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I stepped way out of my comfort zone to make friends, which is apparently what you have to do when you’re not in a campus bubble of similar-age people. In June, I joined a softball team (a sport I’ve never played — what was I thinking?) by myself. I remember frantically running through the National Mall trying to locate a team of total strangers, nervous I’d make a fool of myself.

Seven horrendous losses (all most likely my fault), six months, and many, many beers later, I’ve made some of the best new friends I could’ve asked for (while still most definitely making a fool out of myself).

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Resolutions were the last thing on my mind this time last year (the closest I got was vowing to watch 365 movies this year — needless to say that was unsuccessful). Still sort of reeling from a crappy summertime breakup and jobless as could be, I was just hoping to graduate school with my sanity intact.

But resolutions or not, I can confidently say that, personally, 2017 was a pretty successful year.

And that’s why, with 2018 on the horizon, I’m not making any resolutions.

That’s not to say I’m headed into the new year sans aspirations or goals. I’m 23 and probably a bit too ambitious with my personal goals, making daily lists of things to accomplish.

I admire people who are able to stick to their yearlong goals — that takes the dedication and effort I have reserved for my daily tasks. However, according to U.S. News, approximately 80 percent of new year’s resolutions fail by the second week of February. So, for most people, the odds of sticking to your resolutions are against you.

So rather than make unattainable goals with a far-reaching deadline, perhaps plan on a month-to-month basis.

Looking to lose weight and eat healthier? Plan a weekly meal to prep and a doable gym schedule. Don’t set out to exercise seven days in a row if you know you have a crazy week ahead. Rather than set yourself up to fail, create short term goals. Small efforts along the way will result in massive successes in the end.

And that’s the way I prefer to move forward one day, one week, one month at a time. Anything more and I get overwhelmed or disillusioned, and then mostly likely give up altogether.

In 2018 I want to continue on the same (mostly) upward trajectory I’ve taken in 2017. I want to be healthy, be adventurous, step out of my comfort zone, travel, let myself be open and vulnerable, maintain old and new friendships alike, watch 225 movies, etc. etc. etc.

There’s a ton I want to accomplish in 2018, but I’m going to take it all just one day at a time.

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