Hilary Duff recently opened up about the challenges she faced starting a family so young.
The actress welcomed her first child Luca with her ex-husband, Mike Comrie, in 2012 when she was 24 years old.
In an interview on Motherly podcast, Duff said having Luca was a blessing but it felt a little isolating being the first of her friends to have a baby.
As E! New reports, the actress said:
“It was a little isolating in the beginning because I didn’t have any friends that had babies yet. But I had been working for such a long time that it felt like a natural step for me and I always knew I wanted to be a mom and I always knew that was going to be my number one priority in life. So, I felt ready on some fronts and a little scared on others.”
Duff decided that there was no use putting off having children. However, as she prepared for motherhood, her perspective about adulthood began to change.
“I guess I thought, like, you’re a real adult once you have a baby. But that looked very different than how I looked. Like, when I think of my parents when I was like ten or so, I feel like they looked so old even though they didn’t.”
“My perception was like, ‘Oh, you have all the answers and you know all the things. Everything you say goes because you are God.’ I think that very quickly, when I became pregnant that shifted into like, this is just me, but I’m going to have to be that person to somebody.”
“I guess I’m saying it in a very simple way, but I very much felt like myself and a little fearful that I wasn’t going to have all the answers… It looked like maybe an older person’s job to be a parent.”
The “Younger” star admits she lost “a big chunk” of her identity for the first year and a half after her son’s birth.
“But I don’t think that was a negative thing. At times I was sad about it, but it’s full on. I don’t remember setting him down for the first three months of life.”
Duff welcomed her second child, Banks Violet, in October with fiancé Matthew Koma.