Actress Hilary Duff found herself in a position where she had to defend her choice to pierce her 8-month-old daughter Bank’s ears after she was ridiculed online.

The “Lizzie McGuire” star shared an adorable Instagram Story of Banks with a high ponytail and pierced ears. Yet, instead of receiving sweet comments in her social media feed she was flooded with harsh criticism following her parenting decision.

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Admit the ear-piercing debate, many commenters had strong opinions about whether or not a parent should pierce their baby’s ears. However, some went as far as calling it borderline “child abuse” to force a baby under the needle. One commenter wrote:

I can’t believe someone who seemed so screwed on pierced her babies ears, causing unnecessary pain that isn’t for medical reasons done by a fully qualified medical professional is child abuse in my eyes, the risks are unreal and that throbbing pain in her ears no matter how happy and looked after your child is just isn’t justified in my eyes.

Many also took to Duff’s recent post to shame the mother-of-two for changing Banks’ appearance before she’s old enough to make the choice for herself.

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One commenter wrote:

To put a baby through it with no choice but to deal with it isn’t right in my opinion. If a ‘young kid’ wants it, then I support the parents’ decision … they aren’t fashion accessories.

Another commenter added:

I agree. I just don’t get why you would do it. Babies are beautiful, why would they need their ears piercing?

According to pediatricians, it’s generally medically safe to perform the practice on a baby though some parents don’t approve of the piercings, citing pain and risks of infections.

However, doctors typically advise parents to wait until a child has been immunized before considering a piercing. In addition, it’s probably best to hold off on the procedure until a child is at least 3-months-old.

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Despite the backlash, many moms defended Duff, who spoke out in an Instagram Story. The singer and actress wrote:

Yes we pierced her ears.

Cruel or cute? Is Banks too young for pierced ears? Tell us what you think.

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Tiffani is a writer for Dearly. She is from New York City. Prior to working for Dearly she covered fashion news and managed social media for various digital media outlets.

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4 Replies to “Hilary Duff Mom-Shamed After Sharing a Photo of Her 8-Month-Old Daughter With Her Ears Pierced”

  • Jodi 1 year ago

    I don’t think it is as hugh of a deal as everyone is making it out to be! I do think it’s up to the parents, however I would advise anyone who asked to wait till she is older and can make the decision herself. I also would also wait with my own child. I feel this way not because I think it’s abuse or anything but because I got my ears pierced at 13 and I was grateful the decision wasn’t made for me. I debated for over a year. I think it benefited me in many ways including feeling a sense of ownership over my own body. It wouldn’t have been devastating or horrible if it had happened as a baby I just think it’s better to wait. No judgement here.

  • Barbara LaRosa 1 year ago

    Too young. Let the child decide if she/he wants to put holes in their ears or not. I worked in close proximity to a kiosk at a mall that pierced baby’s ears. It was horrifying. I couldn’t escape the sound of those babies screaming. Some were so upset they couldn’t catch their breath for awhile. And to top it off, I watched the person doing the piercing instruct the parent to hold the child still but to also wrap their arm across the baby’s forehead and pin them very tight against their chest. A type of headlock. It was simply horrific.

  • Anonymous 1 year ago

    I pierced both of my daughter s ears when they were a month old. Its up to the parents not mom shaming obviously you people have issues within yourself so instead of dealing with your problem you attack others . Sad life

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