Gabrielle Union, best known for her roles in “Bring It On” and “Bad Boys II,” has undoubtedly made her mark in Hollywood. She’s still a successful working actress on a hit BET show, “Being Mary Jane,” but for the past few years, fans have been equally as focused on her personal life.

She married popular NBA player Dwayne Wade in August 2014, and since then, the two have shared a lot of their marital journey with the public — especially the sweet parts:


However, Union has, by no means, kept the other parts of their journey a secret. According to People magazine, the actress has previously opened up about her struggle with infertility. She didn’t believe she’d ever confront a problem like fertility because she never wanted kids.

But the minute she became a stepmom to Wade’s two sons and nephew, things changed. She told People:

“I never wanted kids. Then I became a stepmom, and there was no place I’d rather be than with them.”

However, in an excerpt from her new book, “We’re Going to Need More Wine,” obtained by People, she explained that once she realized she wanted to bring a child into the world, she learned it would much harder than she ever expected.


Also, her journey to conceive, which involved three rounds of in vitro fertilization practically consumed her life for the past few years, as she told People:

“For three years, my body has been a prisoner of trying to get pregnant — I’ve either been about to go into an IVF cycle, in the middle of an IVF cycle, or coming out of an IVF cycle.”

She continued, revealing the constant heartbreak she’s been dealing with as well:

“I have had eight or nine miscarriages.”

Because of the incessant struggle and nature of the public eye, she said that the bloating from IVF combined with doctor’s appointments keep her living in fear that rumors of her pregnancies will begin to circulate the media — and that’s something no woman struggling to carry a child should ever have to read about.

She told People:

“Once a month I look like I’m in my second trimester because I’m bloated. It leads to the questions and it leads to the rumors and anytime I go into a doctor’s office I feel like I’m a member of SEAL Team Six undercover because I don’t want people to speculate.”

As for the nonstop questions on when she and her husband will have kids, she said she’s resorted to lying about the issue to avoid the painful truth:

“For so many women, and not just women in the spotlight, people feel very entitled to know, ‘Do you want kids?’ A lot of people, especially people that have fertility issues, just say ‘no’ because that’s a lot easier than being honest about whatever is actually going on. People mean so well, but they have no idea the harm or frustration it can cause.”

Although her journey has, without a doubt, been a long and rocky one, she told People that despite the heartbreak and influx of IVF hormones, she and Wade “remain bursting with love and ready to do anything to meet the child we’ve both dreamed of” — proving that no matter what happens, they already have the kind of love for each other only a family could.

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