Shortly after the passing of legendary performer Doris Day, the only grandson that survives her is speaking out.
As Dearly previously reported, Day passed away following a battle with pneumonia on May 13, just over a month after she celebrated her 97th birthday.
Day is survived by her grandson, Ryan Melcher, who allegedly hasn’t spoken to his grandmother in 14 years, which is around the time his father passed away.
Melcher took to Facebook to explain his estranged relationship with his grandmother.
He wrote, in part:
You see, I received the news of my grandmother’s passing like many of you — I awoke and read the news in a social media feed Monday morning.
Sadly, due to a divorce that I was thrown into the middle of while still an underaged child, I have not been allowed to see my grandmother for quite some time. When I was invited by Doris to dinner a few years ago after my father’s untimely death in November 2004 (melanoma), her new business manager, a former fan, intervened and asked me to meet him at the family owned Cypress Inn here in Carmel, California.
I was asked by this man: “Why do you want to see Doris?” I was shocked not only at the question, but also that it was coming from someone who was a stranger and outsider.
I just responded, “um….she is my grandmother!”
He replied, “I’m afraid you aren’t going to be able to see your grandmother,” citing the divorce between my parents as his excuse.
When you’re young, you believe the adults when they say you are the problem, however no child — or adult for that matter — should be told who they can and can’t love. Especially family.
I will forever be grateful for the time I had with both my father and my grandmother. When I was younger our family was so close and I was so fortunate to have such special people raise me. It’s taught me to live in the moment and not leave things unsaid. It’s a hard truth, however it is my truth and one I hope others can learn from.
The real estate agent added that he was sharing his story in hopes that people can learn from it.
Melcher wants those going through a similar situation to use his truth “as a wake-up call to re-connect, communicate and tell those around them what they mean to them before it’s too late.”
Melcher said that losing his grandmother has been an emotional time for him but that, regardless of their relationship, he is proud of her work and the legacy she left behind.