A husband is facing backlash on social media after criticizing his wife for being “lazy” during pregnancy.

It started when Reddit user “LonelyThought9” posted on one of the website’s forums asking other users if he was in the wrong.

The man explained that he and his wife are both doctors and are “very excited” to be expecting their first child together.

The wife works about 30 hours during the week while he works “55-60 hours a week on average.” Though she’s working, he said that he was growing frustrated over his wife’s recent behavior.

The husband wrote that she hasn’t been doing housework because she is tired, among other issues he had:

I want to support my wife as much as possible…but ever since we found out we were expecting, she has suddenly become very different. She lost interest in work, we had recent fights about her wanting to quit medicine and stop working entirely to focus on caring for the kid. She no longer helps out around the home.

I have to do all the laundry, cooking, dishwashing, trash, bathroom cleaning because she says she is tired all the time. It’s not that she is physically confining herself at home because she is feeling fatigued, she is often still out and about either hanging out with her co-fellows and girlfriends or sits at home watching TV.

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The doctor said he soon snapped on his wife over the change. He wrote in the Reddit post:

Finally…I blew up at her yesterday when she didn’t go out to pick up some groceries when I asked her to prior to leaving for work. I yelled at her that being pregnant does not automatically make you disabled and unable to do anything.

He also expressed anger over the fact that she bought a $1,200 stroller without asking, though they make a combined $610,000 annually.

The husband asked if he was in the wrong, to which Reddit users responded with a resounding “yes.”

One user commented that he should reconsider his mindset and that they could solve their problem by hiring a housekeeper because they have a high income. They said, in part:

She works 30 hours a week and is pregnant, is flooded with hormones and is probably a bit depressed, losing her drive for medicine with all the nesting instinct. I don’t know how far along she is, but she probably has some symptoms, and it can be a bit physically exhausting. I suppose it’s possible she’s just “being lazy,” but it doesn’t sound like it.

Do you think the husband is in the right or wrong? Let us know in the comments.

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21 Replies to “Doctor Gets Slammed for Implying Pregnant Wife Is ‘Lazy’ Because She’s Too Tired for Housework”

  • Sally Lou 2 years ago

    Yes, her husband is right. She’s lazy and using the pregnancy as an excuse! I had 4 babies, never stopped doing housework, running errands.. my husband was working so many hours so I mowed the lawn, shoveled snow and my women friends and family did the same. There is no reason for her to sit around.

    • Bunny Heppner 2 years ago

      Yeh, gotta agree for the most part. Many women use pregnancy as an excuse to gain weight and tall themselves into being pseudo disabled.

      However, with that income, there is no necessity for either one of them to be doing household chores.

      Aside from her budding inclination to quit medicine and stay home (that’s another issue which may need to be dealt with down the road), the answer is 1.) Hire some help either temporarily or permanently. 2.) Reduce wife’s work load by at least 10 hours a week. 3.) Wife might want to consider taking some pre-natal exercise classes for energy and peer support and 4.) Most important, these two need to ramp up communication, especially now, before the baby comes, when they can still spend time alone. Instead of posting his frustrations on an anonymous forum, he and his wife need to go away overnight or at least have a picnic or sit in front of a fire and just get their thoughts out and talk.
      Sounds like she is starved for attention. Being pregnant can make you feel fat and ugly. Show her some love.

    • Amanda 2 years ago

      Pregnancy makes you tired, you judgmental fucking bitch

    • ML 2 years ago

      Good TF for you, but pregnancy is different for everyone. My mom slid out 6 kids with no problems, still split and stacked wood with my brother. My aunt struggled and all of her pregnancies ended up being high risk. Personally with my son I was so tired I would get home from work and fall asleep in the car in the driveway because I was too exhausted to make it into the house. Just because you had kids doesn’t make you the final authority on the experience, and it certainly isn’t a license to be a judgemental bitch.

    • Anonymous 2 years ago

      Cool story…she’s also still working 30 hours as a doctor. Every persons pregnancy and energy is different just because you could or had too doesn’t mean she has too…

    • Anonymous 2 years ago

      You need to bare in mind that each individual and each pregnancy is unique and different. Maybe she has underlying health issues that are manifesting itself through the pregnancy. Don’t be a bitch.

  • David 2 years ago

    He is probably right. In Vietnam, ask and Nam Vet, I saw pregnant women working all day long in the rice patties. That work requires you to be bent over, while carrying a bundle of rice plants, all day long. I have seen them work in those fields up until they go into labor. One or two days later they were back at work with the new baby strapped to their backs working!

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    I four children and with each one came a different experience. I agree and disagree with the husband. Giving the wife the benefit of the doubt, it could be that she is experiencing morning sickness (which can be all day long), which could cause her to fill sluggish. Also, depending on how far along she is, pregnancy does cause you to tire more easily. For one, you are carrying around a lot more weight. Depending on how active you were before pregnancy also depends on how active you will be during your pregnancy. You can’t put this woman in the same category as yourself or woman from other countries. At the same time, you have to keep yourself going even when you don’t feel like it, such as, picking up around the house, cooking, doing laundry. By keeping yourself busy, you also keep your mind off feeling sluggish or tired. Also, by keeping yourself going, you gain more strength and better prepare yourself physically for child birth. One last thing to the husband, allow your wife to be a “stay-at-home mom.” You make enough for the both of you, so why should both parents work. 🙂

  • Jomola 2 years ago

    She’s pregnant, not helpless. Being a mother of 3 myself, I remember how tired I was during each pregnancy. Yet, I worked 40 hours a week, I always managed to put together dinner every day, the house was cleaned, the laundry was done and groceries were always purchased & put away. He needs to sit down with her and have a heart-to-heart talk about each other’s expectations. Perhaps he may need to invest in some household help, but it would be best to him to know what her plans are, so he can decide if it’s time to throw in the towel or call in the calvery!

  • Melinda 2 years ago

    I will not say he is wrong but then again I will not he is right. We don’t know the whole story just his side. How is feeling other than being tired? Has she always carried the whole load at home, or has he ever pitched in to help out? If not maybe she is trying to make a point that she wants his help and this is the way she is doing it. They need to sit down and talk maybe with a counselor or clergy to help mediate and work things out now.

    Both times I was pregnant my husband was out to sea (he is a 20 year Navy vet). With the first we didn’t know until I was 7 months pregnant (yes it does happen and no we are not dumb I had NO symptoms and all test came back negative this was 37 years ago) and I had to go it alone. The second (now 34) I had complications all the way through I missed carried her twin early on, was put on bed rest multiple times, all while having a 2 1/2 year old daughter running around. I had to cook, clean, do the laundry, take care of the yard and all with him deployed. I am so thankful to my fellow navy wives and command wives as well as my doctor she was pregnant at the same time I was (her husband on the same ship with my husband) and a son the same age my oldest daughter that they all pitched in to help me out when things got bad. My husband wishes he could have been there to help me out he was unable to be there for the birth of our first and made it home just in time for the birth of our second.

    So again I will not say he is right or he is wrong. I just ask what is the whole story?

  • Nanny 2 years ago

    I had morning sickeness with both my kids from day 1 on up til the 8 th month it was horrible not to say the hormones changing and feeling tired In General I didn’t have to work back then but I wasn’t lazy but I was extremely tired all the time let her husband Puke 24/7 and then try and get up and do the house chores her husband needs to take a Long look In the Mirror if amen could bare children we would not have any kind of population !! He sounds like a jerk!

  • Pat Copenhaver 2 years ago

    Her husband is wrong. Every woman is different. So one woman can glide through pregnancy without any problems, while others can’t cope with the hormones, fatigue, etc. He doesn’t mention what kind of physicians he and his wife are. Surgeons obviously have a heavier workload than say primary care physicians. That’s not to say that primary care physicians don’t have heavy schedules too. It’s a different set of circumstances, that’s all.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    Get serious! Can only imagine what he’ll be like if she experienced post-partum. Sounds like he needs to address his neurotic control freak behavior and not her “laziness”! Be grateful. She’s giving you a child! And pick up the slack!!

  • Chris 2 years ago

    You are a bit tired when pregnant. 30 hours a week isn’t a lot of hours. She could be helping with some of the housework. Seems like she is taking advantage a little. Its really not fair for him to work that many hours and do housework and grocery shopping. He needs downtime too. I can’t even imagine the dynamics once the baby arrives. Maybe there is an underlying medical condition causing this. Pregnancy does not equal being an invalid?‍♀️

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    SOUNDS LIKE SHE’S TAKING ADVANTAGE OF HER SITUATION TO ME! My GRANDMA’S/MOM/AUNTS/Female cousins all kept going during their pregnancies, many while raising multiple children.& working. My daughter alsoworked fulltime up to her 8th month when her 2 boyswere born.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    It just depends on her situation but he says that she doesnt do anything around the house but still goes out with her friends. I think she should still be able to cook and clean and go grocery shopping. I was pregnant with my third and did it all. I was even severely anemic and most times i would almost pass out . But i think doing the dishes and cooking isnt asking for much easpecially if its just her and her husband. How much dishes and laundry would they even make? The house should stay clean because its just 2 people. I am a mother of 3 so this is just based on my experience.

  • Joyce 2 years ago

    Yes he’s wrong! Her body is being flooded with hormones, she is caring extra weight and dealing with a non understanding husband! You make enough money to have help! Do it!

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    I don’t believe anything like this is actually true.If we was really a real doctor, an M.D.,he might be discussing it with a psychiatrist but not likely crying around on Facebook.

  • Taz 2 years ago

    Yeah, he’s an idiot! I work in the medical field and I don’t know any doctor OR nurse that would discuss something so personal/private on social media!
    Plus he should hire a housekeeper and cook for now and a nanny when the baby arrives.
    My dad made half of their combined salaries and he had hired help to assist my mom: cook, housekeeper and someone to watch us smaller kids when my mom was pregnant. Plus my mom always had someone to go with her as she shopped, to watch us smaller kids!
    This guy is a joke! Wifey will have that baby and dumb him!!

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