Sam Thompson, a disc jockey from Nottinghamshire, England, is opening up about the turn his life took when he and his then-girlfriend moved to Manchester, England, together in the summer of 2016.
On September 1, 2016 — just weeks after he and his girlfried moved into the city — Thompson was out enjoying a night with a childhood friend when they ended up getting separated. Thompson found himself alone, with a group of people he didn’t know, and without any form of communication — he had lost his phone earlier that night.
The group of strangers invited him up to a hotel room for one last drink. He told the Daily Mail:
“It was about 3am and everyone was in the street waiting for taxis, after the club finished, being sociable. A man said, ‘come with us for a drink’ and it seemed like a great idea. I’d done it 100 times before back home in Newark. I’ve made most of my friends that way.”
After congregating in the hotel room, Thompson eventually found himself alone with two other guys. He remembers them making him another drink before everything turned into a haze.
“I don’t know if it was spiked. It’s hazy what happened. I remember them taking my jeans off, but I tried not to focus on what was happening. You can fight, flight or flop. I flopped. Both guys took turns to rape me, moving me about. It lasted a few hours.”
On his walk back home that morning, Thompson remembered being in shock. The idea of ending his own life floated through his head.
He admitted that it was the thought of how his family would handle his death that stopped him from committing suicide that very night:
“I wanted to jump off a bridge. I didn’t want to live. It was only the thought of my family, that it would have destroyed them, that I thought, I can’t do it to them.”
After returning to the home he shared with his girlfriend, Thompson broke down, explaining to his girlfriend and childhood friend everything that had happened.
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They immediately took him to the police station. Thompson described the officers assigned to his case as “brilliant.”
He told them his story, attempted to locate the exact hotel where the assault took place, and endured the test the officers needed to conduct in order to prove his story.
Thompson’s mom, Jan, told the Daily Mail that you could see the hurt in her son’s eyes:
“It was horrific to hear what had happened. Sam was traumatized. He was like a shell. He was like that for a few months. It was like it had taken him away. I could see it in his eyes.”
The fear and the trauma stayed with him for the next month. It crippled him, making it impossible for him to even leave his home.
Eventually, thanks to therapy and his job as a DJ, Thompson began acclimating himself back into the world; he was motivated by the idea that he “didn’t want what happened to beat [him].”
As the Daily Mail reports, an arrest was made as a result of the investigation, but no further action was ever taken. And as a result of the toll that night took on the both of them, Thompson and his girlfriend ended their 18-month relationship in January.
Now he’s dedicating his time to raising awareness about male rape in hopes of erasing the negative connotations that surround it. He also hopes his story will help with training the Greater Manchester Police to know what to do when comes to investigating rape.
“Male rape is a taboo. Men are told they shouldn’t get upset or talk about it because they’re men. They should be manly.
My biggest worry on a night out before this was always losing my wallet or phone. I never thought I could be raped. Women are told you could get raped, but it can happen to men too.”
According to RAINN, while women are more often victims of sexual violence, men can also become victims as well. According to their website:
As of 1998, 2.78 million men in the U.S. had been victims of attempted or completed rape. About three percent of American men — or one in 33 — have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime. One out of every 10 rape victims are male.