The late David Bowie’s son, filmmaker Duncan Jones, said fatherhood drained the fun from his life. And many found his description of parenting incredibly offensive and inaccurate.
Jones shared his thoughts on what it means to be a parent on Twitter, and his heart-to-heart “conversation” on social media caused quite a stir on Friday.
I have 2 kids. 2 1/2 years & 9 months old respectively.
I’ll tell you something I never see anyone admit… they are exhausting, frustrating & life-destabilizing. They are rarely fun. Sure, smiles are great, hugs are lovely, but it’s HARD & not obviously a good choice in life.
— Duncan Jones (@ManMadeMoon) January 12, 2019
I have 2 kids. 2 1/2 years & 9 months old respectively. I’ll tell you something I never see anyone admit… they are exhausting, frustrating & life-destabilizing.
The father of two, 47, went on to say that his children are “rarely fun.”
— #WarcraftMovie (@warcraftmovie) June 7, 2016
They are rarely fun. Sure, smiles are great, hugs are lovely, but it’s HARD & not obviously a good choice in life.
While many parents acknowledged that raising a child can be hard work, Jones received flak for confessing his frustrations:
I feel sorry for you that this is how you feel about your kids. It’s like you’re missing the point of being a dad. :/
— The?FOO (@PolitiBunny) January 13, 2019
He’s just a young kid that doesn’t understand human relationships, love, etc. still chasing the dollar, which is important too. But he’ll grow up and learn that those kids actually give him the only real value that his life has. And also, #MAGA ????????
— Scooby Doo (@ScoobyDooo99) January 14, 2019
Gonna be a tough day when his kids are old enough to read and comprehend this. Every borderline selfish act through their upbringing will be both magnified and confirmed, fairly or otherwise.
— Adam Trahan (@AdamTrahan) January 13, 2019
However, the “no fun” problem definitely resonated with some people.
Jones received sympathy from parents who said doing the work of caring for children is often insurmountably difficult:
Its so weird how we conflate disliking parenting with not-loving the child. We understand why adult children struggle with caring for an elderly parent, and the complex feelings that arise. We don’t question their love. Why do we question it when the situation is reversed?
— Carrie Poppy, CIA Wonk (@CarriePoppyYES) January 14, 2019
having kids is hard and awful at times and produces feelings of inadequacy that never go away. i never recommend it to anyone. this is nothing against my kids, who are wonderful human beings, but being a parent just outright sucks sometimes https://t.co/03a0gsXxE3
— michele (@inthefade) January 13, 2019
The movie director was both praised and condemned for his honest words and followed up his post with a second tweet:
This is where people feel compelled to say ‘I wouldn’t change it for the world!’ But you know…Of course, I’d reconsider! It’s exhausting! It’s banal! It’s like looking after a dog you can’t housetrain. What it is, is that it is. & they are mine. Hopefully, they turn out ok.
The Duncan Jones film WARCRAFT is already the highest-grossing video game adaptation of all time. It has grossed over $379 million worldwide, surpassing Prince of Persia: The Sands of Time.
Jones and his wife, Rodene Ronquillo, welcomed their firstborn, Stenton David Jones, six months after Bowie died from cancer in 2016, reports the Daily Mail.
Do you agree or disagree with Jones’ comments?