In recent years, several moms (including celebrities like Pink) have written about how they want their husbands to take more responsibility when it comes to taking family photos.
One mom, in a Facebook post that later went viral, put it this way:
No woman wants to look back at a lifetime of selfies. Do what she does for you every day, and snap a few moments in time. Be proud. Take photos of her. Before kids and after.
Just take the photo…
Now a dad and husband is offering another perspective to the issue — and it’s aimed at moms who seem to find a way to stop that photo over and over again.
Father-of-three Brad Kearns, who blogs at DaDMuM, had every intention of taking a photo of his wife on Christmas. As he wrote on Facebook, “all she wanted was a nice picture with her in it. I literally walk around with a camera. I take millions every day but it still didn’t seem to happen.”
This Christmas all she wanted was a nice picture with her in it. I literally walk around with a camera. I take millions…
Why not? Because there was always something that held his wife back from wanting a photo at that moment. Such as, “kids, vomit, comfortable clothes, the fear of poor lighting and an imperfect backdrop.”
That’s when Kearns penned his own version of “Just take the photo.” But this time, it was directed to women. Addressing himself to wives and mothers, he begged:
Let them take the photos.
Don’t wait for the perfect moment. Don’t wait for the perfect hair day. Don’t wait until you’re wearing your best/most flattering outfit. Don’t critique and retake it for the best lighting. Don’t wait until you’re free of vomit and feeling clean and fresh.
Kearns realizes that you might have your heart set on a perfect family Christmas scene — something right out of a catalog. But that’s not what’s most important. He wrote:
Don’t set the bar so high that you miss out altogether.
Because these memories are the ones that matter. These ones right here…
The comments on Kearns’ post were testimony to the fact that many women don’t mind if their partner captures them in unflattering moments.
Kearns’ point is that those “bad” photos might not be as bad as you think. “You don’t need perfect make-up to be beautiful,” he wrote. He then tagged his wife and added, “Mrs DaDMuM more beautiful than ever.”