Single fathers in the U.S. have grown significantly in recent decades and just like single motherhood, many working dads are having a difficult time balancing work and family, according to Pew Research.

As the role of the father changes, men juggling the demands of children and work alone say “single dads have it rough too.” However, one woman felt the need to criticize Richard Miley for bringing his daughter to work and he said that was completely unfair.

Richard, 28, moved from Florida to Texas to take over his sister’s power washing company in 2018 but it has come with many challenges now that he has full custody of his 5-year-old daughter, Ashtyn, reports Yahoo.

Her mother passed away a year ago, according to  KTRK.

Sorry for all the delayed responses! Im trying to keep up but Ashtyn can be a handful sometimes 😅 if you have words of…

Posted by All Seasons Powerwash on Thursday, February 7, 2019

Richard said his daughter can be a handful and when daycare is too expensive, he brings her to work sometimes. The little girl normally helps her dad by passing out flyers, or she sits in a parked car or his clients’ homes while he works.

However, a few days ago the dad said he was shamed by a prospective client for bringing his daughter to work and posted about the encounter on Facebook.

All Seasons Powerwash had a job lined up for today, when I showed up the lady asked if my daughter was going to be with…

Posted by Richard Miley on Monday, February 4, 2019

Richard explained in his post:

I had a job lined up for today, when I showed up the lady asked if my daughter was going to be with me the whole time. When I replied ‘yes, she comes with me everywhere’ the lady snapped back ‘well you don’t need to come back here.’

The woman went on to say:

‘A man needs to work and you need to learn that.’

KTRK

Thirty minutes later the dad took to social media to air his grievances and let prospective clients know his business comes with a “mini helper.” He said:

First off it’s not my fault my kids lost their mother, it’s not my fault my youngest took it pretty hard and acts out too much to be in a daycare consistently.

But I do my best every day to provide for my children. And I don’t need praise for taking care of them, it’s what I’m supposed to do. I just want everyone to know if you do choose All Seasons Powerwash for any of our services, my 5-year-old will be with me!!!

Richard told Yahoo that sometimes people assume single dads “don’t need as much help” but “child care is hard for guys too,” and he didn’t need a lecture.

Many of Richard’s customers said that partnership works for them. Following the Facebook post, his business started to pick up.

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Tiffani is a writer for Dearly. She is from New York City. Prior to working for Dearly she covered fashion news and managed social media for various digital media outlets.

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41 Replies to “Customer Shames Single Dad for Bringing His Daughter to Work: ‘Child Care Is Hard for Guys Too’”

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    You are doing an excellent job and I feel you do not need to explain why your daughter is there with you. As long as you’re doing your job, taking care of your child/children and there is no harm to them then there is nothing anyone should say unless it’s positive. Keep doing a great job and keep your head up.

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    I always went with my mother when she cleaned doctor’s houses and I had some of the best experiences there playing with their children or getting permission to play with toys that we could never begin to afford. You are a great dad and you continue doing what you are doing.

  • Mary Berkenstock 6 months ago

    I think you are an amazing dad taking care of your children, that lady was a bitch, she should have been thankful your daughter comes first but you also need to work to support you guys. My son is a single dad and he’s has to bring his daughter to work sometimes ignore ignorant people have a great day!!

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    I praise you for what you are doing! Continue being the good dad you are and never give up! Your little girl is first and foremost the most important thing in your life and you should never have to explain to anyone why she is with you.

  • Amanda 6 months ago

    Maybe she is afraid that she will lose him as well

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    Well done for the Dad

  • Tereasa 6 months ago

    I get it, I bring my daughter to work with me and I also did with my boys as well. I was just blessed to have had a job that allowed me too. You ROCK!

  • Phyllis 6 months ago

    Keep up the good work…at home and on the job.

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    I take my daughter to the vet hospital I work at especially when they have a day off and I need to be in a surgery suite. My boss is honestly the best he has allowed her to feel so welcome and he teaches her a lot. She has seen lots of educational things and understands that hard work can get you far. I think that it was rude of her to just judge and not spark up a convo but that’s just me. It’s not easy being a single parent.

  • Richele 6 months ago

    I take my daughter to the vet hospital I work at especially when they have a day off and I need to be in a surgery suite. My boss is honestly the best he has allowed her to feel so welcome and he teaches her a lot. She has seen lots of educational things and understands that hard work can get you far. I think that it was rude of her to just judge and not spark up a convo but that’s just me. It’s not easy being a single parent.

  • Cassie 6 months ago

    Screw what ignorant people thing. You are doing the right thing!

  • Traci 6 months ago

    You do what you need to do. I commend you for taking care of your responsibilities. Yes, children can be difficult but don’t let anyone ashame you for being a great daddy. As a single mom of 3, I totally understand what you’re going through. Keep up the fantastic job you’re doing.

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    Let him bring his daughter. Shame on WHOEVER has a problem

  • Alicia 6 months ago

    If you came to work on my house with your daughter in tow…. I would shower her with attention along with my own children and probably request future play dates….. I admire your tinasity… Keep it up ! Its inspiring and nakes the world of a difference to a little girl.

  • Jeannie Norman 6 months ago

    It is very hard.I was a single mother to 5 CRAZY boys. They are all adults now and I miss the craziness lol. It is definitely worth the work.Keep doing what you know is best for your family. Good luck and have fun.

  • Kathy Ficocelli 6 months ago

    Many many years ago (i was probably in kindergarten thru first or second grade) my Mother took me to work with her every Saturday because my Dad had a job working for a government company and he could not. My Mom was a hair stylist and had a huge clientele. I would sit in the back (it was like their kitchen) and play with my dolls and even copy my Mom by curling my dolls hair. My Mom and I always had lunch together. On occasion I would wander out and the clients would chat with me and even ask to see my dolls. I learned a great deal about people, young and old. Many would like to share with me interesting stories about themselves or their families, or fun things to do. I cherish those days because I knew my Mom cared about me enough to want me with her. I think Richard is not only telling his daughter how important she is to him but teaching her that you must work to pay the bills. Many children have no idea what their parents do or hard they work. They also think money grows on trees. This young girl is seeing love, work ethic and learning that things don’t come for free. Most of all he is there for his little girl when she needs him most. God Bless you Richard!

  • Erin Dora 6 months ago

    I think this guy should not be criticized for having his kid with him. If he does his job on both ends then that is awesome. That lady should be criticized for being liked that. That is rude of her and I bet if it was a single mom taking her child to work with her the situation would be different

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    Your awesome. Keep taking care of your daughter NOTHING WRONG WITH WHAT YOUR DOING..

  • Denise Murillo 6 months ago

    I think its Awesome what you are doing as a single Dad! Not very many guys would do that for their child they would just give up or walk out on their life! You are not doing that! You have no choice but to do what you have to do to provide for your Daughter & I think your doing the right thing for you & Her! Fuck all those haters! & Keep doing what’s best for you two!!😎

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    I think it’s great that you can take her to work she needs you . so keep doing what your doing. You don’t need stupid people’s business you’ll be just fine good luck and God bless you

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    As a little girl one of my favorite things was to ride the bus my Dad drove on his route….the passengers were great and I was still with my Dad….loved every minute of it

  • Stephanie 6 months ago

    I would like to say you are doing a smash up job. I have full custody of my kids and sometimes finding child care is hard even with a partner. I am an independent contract worker in the maintenance field. Sometimes my kids have to come with me. Not only are we still working to provide for our family but it’s a valuable lesson for our. Children. They learn about a trade skill and about hard work and dedication!. Keep up the hard work! You are amazing and you little one is lucky to have a father that cares as much as you do!!

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    With the world the way it is now people seem to think they need to remark on things that aren’t any of there business. When my son was young he was have seizures and I had a coworker tell me that I didn’t need to be there when he had test done just leave him in the hospital by himself

  • Sabra Munoz 6 months ago

    I applaud you for being so dedicated to your child and her wellbeing. I’ve been in the same situation and my clients’ understanding meant so much! I pray that the right customers will come your way. People who have a helpful spirit toward you AND your daughter. God bless💜

  • Dianne 6 months ago

    You are doing a great job and should be proud of yourself. People have little or no understanding of the position you found yourself in. But you decided as a Father your little one comes first. Good for you. x

  • Carol 6 months ago

    Sounds like a great dad. Faced with problems but being a good dad is his first priority.

  • Donita Clark 6 months ago

    I wish I lived close enough to him so I could babysit for him for free.

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    Being a single parent is difficult alone then add the death of the other parent leaves a void that you or anyone can fill . I was widowed twice and it is hard being mom and dad. Working and making life balance is not easy. Day care is expensive and doesn’t understand when a child acts out to express their feelings they have because the child themselves don’t realize what they feel. Keep doing what your doing and letting her know she is loved and wanted is the best you can do. People need to realize you need to have her there and if you had any other choice you would be using that. Death for an adult is hard to handle for a child to handle it is harder they don’t seem to grasp or understand the feeling of loneliness and a hole in their heart not even you can fill. Keep up the awesome work she will appreciate you forever and have a life time of memories of you and her .

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    Kudos to you! You’re doing an awesome job!

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    You are a great Dad & love ❤️ seeing fathers that love & care .. keep up all of what you are doing I admire you !! You’re Daughter will forever e greatful .. God bless you & your Family ❤️♥️🙏

  • Angela Knight 6 months ago

    I’m so sorry you all are going through this. Some people are just hateful. Keep up the good work Dad!

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    I too was raised by a single father after my mother passed away when I was young. Thank you for being an amazing father and showing your daughter what a real man is through good times and bad. Blessing to you and your family and I am truly sorry for your loss!

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    Hey your doing what you should be doing.I hope things get easier for all of you.God bless!!

  • Granny G 6 months ago

    Great job Dad! Don’t worry about someone’s opinion because they don’t know your story. You just continue to do the best you can with the cards you were dealt! May God Bless!

  • Andrea 6 months ago

    I think that hateful old biddy needs a reality check. You are taking care of your child the best way you can and I think you should be commended for doing so not condemned. I hope people in your area see that and you have a successful run at your business.

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    Good job sir. Dont need to explain to dumb people why you have to do what you have to do. When they pay your rent or Bill’s then they can keep moving. You are wonderful father your kids come first and that’s all that matter.

  • Guerrina 6 months ago

    I was a single Mom who is blessed beyond measure to work for a company that allowed me to bring my son to work when needed. My son now is a single Dad with custody and often my grandson will come to work with me if Dad’s work schedule doesn’t allow him to be home with his son.

    Keep up the good work! Your daughter is learning a lot of good things about her Dad through this.

  • Sandra Lightowler 6 months ago

    Hi your doing a great job it’s not easy being both mum and dad the main thing is you love your kids and will do anything for them that woman is a nasty piece of dirt. I know a lot of people who have taken their kid to work and that a 2 parent household you are doing an amazing job don’t let someone like that woman hurt you just keep loving your kids because before you know it they will be independent teenagers and doing things with their friends.

  • Angie 6 months ago

    I think that you’ve got to do what you need to do.
    as a single parent myself, I know how hard it is to juggle work, kids, school and more.
    keep at it! Keep your head up and keep doing what you are doing!

  • Helen hunt 6 months ago

    If it was a single mother they would be praising her. Keep up the good work your children are more important than some high class chic

  • Anonymous 6 months ago

    Good for you!

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