Note: This article contains coarse language that some readers might find offensive. 

One day, a woman received a text message from a man suggesting they go out together. Although flattered by the proposition, the woman informed the man she was married and declined the offer.

Now, this story could have ended one of two ways for the man: He could have politely accepted the woman’s refusal and ended the conversation then and there, or, he could have persisted in his quest, only to be savagely shut down by a wife with zero tolerance for a man daring her to be unfaithful to her husband.

Lacking any foresight, the man continued to text.

The exchange, which the woman posted to Imgur, captured the moment a man attempted to coax her to cheat on her husband by assuring her it was acceptable because the man was also married.

After the woman rejected the man’s offer to go out on a date because she was married, he texted back in part:

Ok so am I but we just won’t tell …

“It’ll be fun” he wrote.

The man, whose profile picture was taken with his kids, propositioned the woman on Monday at 5:59 p.m. to no response. Later, a “?” got the conversation going again:


The last text, which came in at around 1:49 p.m., again, went unanswered.

The admiring man then texted the woman again, presumably in an effort to elicit a reaction from her:


And boy did he ever.

Whereas some people in this situation may have had a fit, launching expletives and threats of physical harm, the married woman did the man one better.

She told him a story of her own:


Recounting the story of her battle with cancer, the woman wrote that through it all — telling their children mommy was sick, the pain, the gory responsibility accompanying each procedure — the woman’s husband stayed by her side.

Then, the woman told the man about a song that constantly played in her head while she faced her own mortality:

During this time there was a song lyric that would constantly loop in my head “Love is watching someone die”.

That’s when she asked the man a question that likely had him taking a cold, hard look at his life:


She asked [emphasis added]:

So my question to you is… Who is going to watch you die?

“Get your house in order and please stop messaging me,” she wrote.

Commenters thought the woman handled the man’s advancements masterfully:

HAYMAKER. Power moves only. Well played.

That went from tinder to scorched earth in a flash.

You know, as a husband that was cheated on, it feels good to know there are still wives (and husbands like yours) out there.

Holy d**n. I am truly impressed, OP [original poster]. Wish both you and your awesome husband the best.

What a fantastic woman! People who sneak around and cheat are truly horrible and selfish, awesome this woman put her foot down!

Brutal, love it. Dude definitely doesn’t seem like a catch anymore.

Other commenters had harsh words for the man and suggested that the woman show his wife the conversation:

F**k homewreckers like that. Seriously.

I would definitely send that to his wife. If it was me, I’d want to know. Better to find out now then to let it go on for God knows how long.

A March article from Refinery 29 wrote that based on the widely varying data surrounding partners who cheat — including the willingness to answer a questionnaire truthfully — it is difficult to determine how many spouses actually do.

From Refinery 29:

So, whether or not cheating is actually a “part of life” for everyone, it’s pretty clear that the statistics aren’t quite there to back up that claim. We might have some insight into factors that affect someone’s likelihood to cheat, but it’s definitely not true or worth it to say that cheating is the norm — because, as far as we know, it’s not.

Despite the concern that perhaps cheating is more common than people think, it appears it is not the norm, at least. And certainly not for this woman.

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