A guilt-ridden newlywed posed a question that has since gained lots of attention.

The anonymous bride asked if she was in the wrong for kicking out wedding guests for bringing their baby and toddler to an adults-only wedding.

According, to the woman who wrote “Am I the A**hole?!?” on Reddit, a couple ignored clear instructions to not bring their children to her big event and they weren’t immune from consequences for their actions.

However, the woman says her relatives and the long-time family friends who got ejected from her reception are still angry with her, even though she stated specifically in her invitations that “there were to be no children at this wedding.”

The woman said she let it go during the ceremony despite hearing a fussy baby during her vows, but after the ceremony, things got a bit heated when the bride sent her event planner to ask the couple to arrange for someone to pick up the kids.

Eventually, the bride had to step in to diffuse the situation but she “snapped.” The user explained:

I could tell they were arguing with my event planner though so I went over to help him. I think they thought I came to rescue them because they started going on about how rude my event planner was. I explained that I had actually sent him over to discuss the children.

I reiterated that the event was child-free and said that I had stated so clearly on my invitations.

She concluded her post by saying she made the couple leave but felt bad about it afterward:

The wife gave a sort of apology and then assured me that they were capable of minding their own children to make sure they didn’t get in the way of anything. I said that wasn’t really the point.


I really hate that my wedding day had to be somewhat marred by this incident. According to my mother, everyone was talking about it and I guess enjoying a little dramatic entertainment.

Many of the people who responded to the Reddit post seem to support the bride’s decision. One commenter wrote:

You were clear and they ignored that. Then they had the gall to make a scene at YOUR wedding. Good riddance …

What do you think? Did she go too far?

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27 Replies to “Bride Faces Backlash After Kicking out Guests Who Brought Kids to Her Adult-Only Wedding: ‘Am I the A**hole?’”

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    I have to side with the bride on this because she made it clear in the invitation NO CHILDREN , the individuals who still brought their kids were wrong .

  • Hector Jr 2 years ago

    She should not have even had to deal with this since she clearly stated on the invitation no children.
    The guest were the ones 100% in the wrong.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    Absolutely the bride was in the right.

    • Craig Murphy 2 years ago

      It’s her day. I thoroughly concur.

  • Jen 2 years ago

    I completely agree with the bride. It is her wedding and her requests should have been fulfilled without any drama from anyone. I had a close cousin who had a “no children” rule at his wedding. At the time I didn’t have a sitter and I knew not to make a fuss so I sent a gift and my best wishes. I didn’t not assume the rule didn’t apply to me. Can I handle my own child?! Absolutely, but that’s not the point, resdpecting their wishes on their day was!

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    Totally agree w/bride. Her/their day should not have been marred by inconsiderate attendees — would not call them guests because they didn’t comply with terms of the invitation. Good for her!

  • Alyssa 2 years ago

    I don’t really understand the idea of a “child-free” wedding. To me, weddings are about family and fun and memories and I couldn’t imagine not having the children of my friends and family there to celebrate with me. But it’s whatever I guess. To each their own.

    • Francine Lundberg 2 years ago

      Then why did you bother to comment? The bride was VERY CLEAR in her invitation that she did NOT want kids there!
      I did NOT either and NO kids were brought!
      A little thing called RESPECT!

    • Anonymous 2 years ago

      Alyssa I love children, I love my friends, family and all of their children. But my wedding was child-free because venues can’t accomodste the world. Quite a few of my desired guests have a good number of kids to allow for all invited to bring kids I would have had to severely limit the number of relatives and friends my husband and I could invite. Say one of your friends was the Duggar’s- do you honestly think they would expect you to let them bring all 20+ of their children? In the end one guest was unable to make it due to a lack of sitter related issue but had no bitterness to it said they understood and sent well wishes. Other guests with kids thanked us for giving them a reason to find a sitter and enjoy a night out with their spouse at the adult table.

      One thing that isn’t explained in this article is how the invites stated the wedding was kid-free? A part of me wonders if maybe it wasn’t so clear. I also wonder if the baby was a nursing baby to which regards I think if the bride really didn’t want a nursing baby there then the bride should have been more clear and direct to this couple prior to the wedding because as a nursing momma now (we don’t do bottles) I think this would need to be spelled out more like saying something is pet free but then having to explain to the blind person that it includes their guide dog.

    • Krista 2 years ago

      Alyssa, if the bride and groom made arrangements to have their wedding recorded, I’m sure they didn’t want a bunch of kids screaming, crying and talking loudly during the ceremony!

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    Anonymous, totally agree!

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    While I agree to a point with previous Poster “Alyssa” regarding weddings being a family celebration, first and foremost the wedding is about the Bride and Groom. They clearly indicated the wedding was to be “Child Free”. It was extremely disrespectful to show up with kids in tow. If the invitation had stated a dress code, for example, would you show up in jeans and a t-shirt? It is as simple as following the rules. In this case, the Bride gets to establish the rules. It does not matter whether you agree with the rules, the rules need to be followed. If there is an issue with following the rules, STAY HOME!

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    kick them all out.

  • Connie Dorman 2 years ago

    I think the bride had a right to ask them to leave.

    I myself would want my love ones there. I think it would be great to start a new tradition by having a second small room with a child appropriate party with supervision. With clear understanding the children must stay there.

    • Anonymous 2 years ago

      yeah, like the kids will stay put , nice dream.

  • Tomas Lee 2 years ago

    She was right, but a wedding should be or it used to be the union of not just two persons but of two families and that includes children. Then again her wedding and she is the QUEEN of the day!

  • Melissa 2 years ago

    I completely agree with the bride. She had every right to tell them to leave. She has nothing to feel bad about!

  • Leslie 2 years ago

    I agree she was in the right to ask them to find care for the children or leave. It was rude to show up with them and how about all the other people that made arrangements for their children? People that dense and self-involved don’t need to be your friends.

  • Debbie 2 years ago

    The bride was clearly in the right. She put the request on the invitations. What made these people think they were an exception. If they aren’t capable of following written instructions on an invitation I’m not so sure they are capable of controlling their kids during the reception. She was right to ask them to leave

  • julie 2 years ago

    bride? what bride? more like a selfish bridezilla! It is selfish and rude to ask people to not bring there children but I am sure you would appreciate the gift they brought you! If you don’t want the children at your reception then you should be responsible for renting an additional area and providing daycare for the children along with a child friendly meal or request that the money being spent on a gift be spent on daycare instead! It has become so much about the bride anymore that the brides have become selfish, rude and more of a spoiled brat than the little kids. I hope that any bride who feels that children should be there only for them to show case them as flower girl and ring bearer are not able to have any children of there own because they don’t deserve to have any if this is the way they feel. By the way I’ll bet the parents of these children brought you a nice gift I hope you didn’t have the audacity to keep it!

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  • anonymous 2 years ago

    heres how it goes please come celebrate with us just remember your children are not welcome however your expensive gift is more than welcome!

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    I totally agree with the bride! My brother and his wife, requested no children at their weddin…..bear in mind, at the time, I had 4 or 5 bitties….I respected their wishes, made sure we had a bbysitter. They were there at the venue, where we could make sure all was ok, but, they were not invading the special day! I think the couple who brought their children were totally out of line!

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    bride shouldnt had to deal with these entitled morons

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    The bride was totally right to tell them to leave. This entitlement bull has gone way over board. They were in the wrong and anyone with a brain can see that.

  • Karen 2 years ago

    If you have no one to watch the kids, don’t go to the wedding, that’s all.

  • Anonymous 2 years ago

    Weddings are not cheap. It is the couple’s right to have no kids there. When your paying someone to video it..do you want crying kids on it..also our wedding dinner was $25 per person that adds up (and that was 20 plus years ago).

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