It’s approaching crunch time for the four lucky men left on Rachel Lindsay’s season of “The Bachelorette.”
As the Dallas-based lawyer shucks the traditional rose ceremony and continues to ax contestants based on gut feelings, each contestant’s personal life is thrust under a nationwide microscope.
After surviving plenty of high-stakes cocktail parties, Viking-style jousting tournaments, antagonistic housemates and plenty of helicopter rides, the next big hurdle for the remaining men is the infamous “hometown date,” a one-on-one date where their hopeful bride meets each contestants’ family and friends on their stomping grounds.
While most vie for this spot, it seems one hesitant man this season isn’t feeling any home field advantage.
The youngest of the pack, 25-year-old Dean Unglert, revealed in last night’s episode his petrifying fear of making it to hometowns — and it’s all because of his father.Screenshot/ABC
Dean opened up about his emotionally distant dad during a loaded one-on-one date with Lindsay:
“He’s just not a person that has any bearing on my emotional experience, I guess you could say. He’s become quite a bit more eccentric. What I wish you could see was the family I had in my most developmental years…and not the family that abandoned me at the most vulnerable time in my life.”
His candid admission scored him the coveted date rose, securing his place in the possibly contentious hometown round.
As the program played out, ABC teased a photo of what could be Dean’s father, and almost instantly members of “Bachelor Nation” (the program’s emotional and ardently loyal fan base) began speculating just what was so “eccentric” about Dean’s father.
— Lauren Zima (@laurenzima) July 11, 2017
Is Dean's dad a genie? Da fuq? #thebachelorette
— Vinny Guadagnino (@VINNYGUADAGNINO) July 11, 2017
— My Basic Roommate (@basicroommate) July 11, 2017
— no, i still haven’t seen endgame (@beekayreynolds) July 11, 2017
— olivia ? (@LIVtheVIRGO) July 11, 2017
And now, they may have some answers.
Bustle did some digging and possibly found Dean’s father on social media, whose actual name is Harold.
Harold may be just as eccentric as his son claimed. The name on the Facebook account, which lists Dean as one of his sons, has been renamed to Paramroop S. Khahsa and features Paramroop/Harold with a turban and long, flowing beard.
A LinkedIn profile with the same name claims that he is a Yoga Teacher at Earth Oracle Yoga Studio in Carbondale, Colorado. The studio’s self-described as a “beautiful, intimate space for aligning your energy.”
Dean’s father has a teacher profile on the studio’s site, which reads:
“Paramroop is a master craftsmen of tile and stonework and ran Davinci Stone Works in Carbondale for 8 years. He helps organize morning Sadhana at the Studio. Currently a seva dar, he is in the process of becoming a teacher and offering his healing.”
In 2010, the family’s Aspen-area home burned down in “a fire that investigators concluded was arson,” according to the Aspen Times, though no suspects were ever charged. Paramroop/Harold’s alibi was also cleared by police.
For the past 11 years, Dean’s struggled to form a solid bond with his father, citing the death of his mother as the biggest fracture point in their relationship:
“The second my mother passed away…he wasn’t able to flip that switch and become the person I needed him to be.”
He continued to open up on Instagram about his impenetrable bond with his mother:
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I never thought my story was special. Death is the only thing we can be certain of and everyone is afflicted by it. I've spent the last 11 years of my life glossing over my emotions and never really opening up about how it's affected me because I thought it was something I should just deal with on my own. I have so much love and respect for Rachel (and @bacheloretteabc) for allowing me to share my story and, most importantly, honor my mother, Debbie. That was an incredibly emotional night with A LOT more tears shed off camera. I only hope this helps others who are dealing with something similar to not make the same mistake I did. Every story is special. Opening up about it has only strengthened my relationships with friends & family ?
Dean hoped that in sharing his story, he was able to reach other fans who continue to struggle with their own grief:
“I only hope this helps others who are dealing with something similar to not make the same mistake I did. Every story is special. Opening up about it has only strengthened my relationships with friends & family.”
Dean added a special thank you to “Bachelorette” lead Lindsay, whose “understanding” allowed Dean to be especially candid on an amplified scale:
While we’re still not 100% certain what’s the true deal with Dean’s father, all of Bachelor Nation is in for quite a revelatory episode next Monday on ABC.