Aziz Ansari sported a “Time’s Up” pin at this year’s Golden Globes supporting the #MeToo movement against sexual misconduct against women.

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Now he’s being accused by a woman going by “Grace” of giving her one of the “worst experience with a man” she’s ever had.
As originally reported by Babe, the 23-year-old photographer met Ansari at last year’s Emmy Awards after-party and the two went out on a date a week later in September of 2017.

At the end of their dinner, Ansari invited Grace to go back with him to his apartment, where things escalated more quickly than she was prepared for. She described how he kept trying to engage in sexual acts with her, and she would use verbal and nonverbal cues to signal to him that she was not comfortable with it.

Grace said:

“Most of my discomfort was expressed in me pulling away and mumbling. I know that my hand stopped moving at some points. I stopped moving my lips and turned cold … I know I was physically giving off cues that I wasn’t interested. I don’t think that was noticed at all, or if it was, it was ignored.”

Grace, knowing Ansari’s public persona to be pro-feminist and a dating “expert,” was confused and shocked by the conflicting behavior she witnessed within his home.

She said:

“I didn’t leave because I think I was stunned and shocked. This was not what I expected. I’d seen some of his shows and read excerpts from his book and I was not expecting a bad night at all, much less a violating night and a painful one.”

The next day, the two exchanged text messages.

Grace wrote:

It may have seemed okay. But I didn’t feel good at all. All day I’ve been playing it over, I’m realizing how much it affected me. I want to make sure you’re aware so the next girl doesn’t have to cry on the ride home.

Ansari responded with:

I’m sad to hear this. All I can say is, it would never be my intention to make you or anyone feel the way you described. Clearly, I misread things in the moment and I’m truly sorry.

This is the text Grace* sent Aziz Ansari after their date which left her feeling “violated”. She tells Ansari how uncomfortable he made her feel, saying “you ignored clear non-verbal cues” and “kept going with advances.”

Thirty hours after Grace’s story broke, Ansari made a statement regarding what happened that night:

In September of last year, I met a woman at a party. We exchanged numbers. We texted back and forth and eventually went on a date. We went out to dinner, and afterwards we ended up engaging in sexual activity, which by all indications was completely consensual.

The next day, I got a text from her saying that although ‘it may have seemed okay,’ upon further reflection, she felt uncomfortable. It was true that everything did seem okay to me, so when I heard that it was not the case for her, I was surprised and concerned. I took her words to heart and responded privately after taking the time to process what she had said. I continue to support the movement that is happening in our culture. It is necessary and long overdue.

Grace told Babe, “I was taken advantage of by Aziz. I was not listened to and ignored.”

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