While many of us wish we could just stop working all together, the truth is most of us probably wouldn’t feel as confident if we stopped.

During an interview with Working Mother, celebrity chef Ayesha Curry revealed that working actually helped her recover from postpartum depression.

As Dearly reported, the mother of three previously said that her biggest challenge has been “trying to figure out how to balance work life, mom life, and being a wife.”

However, the wife of Golden State Warriors guard Stephen Curry concluded that it takes a lot of “searching within yourself” to really understand that it’s also OK to achieve your goals.

Further, she added that when she wasn’t working on her passions, she thought she was “miserable.”

In her latest interview, Ayesha revealed that she actually experienced postpartum depression after having her middle daughter. She added that this depression led her to having some not-so-good cosmetic surgery.

According to Working Mother, Ayesha said:

“I didn’t realize at the time, but after having Ryan, I was battling a bit of postpartum that lingered for a while. It came in the form of me being depressed about my body. So I made a rash decision. The intention was just to have them lifted, but I came out with these bigger boobs I didn’t want. I got the most botched boob job on the face of the planet. They’re worse now than they were before. I would never do anything like that again, but I’m an advocate of if something makes you happy, who cares about the judgment?”

However, the restauranteur said it’s working that gives her confidence today.

She explained:

“It makes me feel like I can take on anything. The little things that used to seem like problems aren’t problems at all anymore. Things roll off my back more easily.”

Although Ayesha says there’s nothing wrong with being a full-time mom either, she thinks it’s best to follow your dreams.

She said:

“If you’re a stay-at-home mom, and that’s what you love to do, that’s a beautiful thing. But on the flip side, if you have a passion, I think you’re doing yourself and your children an injustice by not showing them that you’re capable of doing both in some capacity, whether it’s a hobby or a day-to-day job.”

The basketball wife credits her personal ambition to her own mom, who she feels was a great role model.

Ayesha said:

“I watched my mom be a working mother my whole life. I’ve never known anything else other than strong women in powerful positions.”

However, she stated that working, being a mom, and being a wife leaves little time for self-care. She joked saying that it’s been months since she’s had a pedicure.

But she does acknowledge that her situation is easier than the average mom.

She explained:

“My parents live out here now. My older sister is our nanny. That’s what she was doing by trade for a decade, and she was available, so I snatched her up. I wouldn’t be able to do what I’m doing if I didn’t have my village helping me.”

In contrast, the mom revealed that making a professional name for herself as an athlete’s wife isn’t as simple as most would think.

The cookbook author said:

“I think a lot of people do not take me seriously. They think this is something I’ve obtained because of my husband’s income. That’s not true. He hasn’t invested a dime in my restaurant business. […] It’s this weird hierarchy of misogyny. When my career was starting to take off, this male reporter bashed me on live television, saying I should be more like the other [basketball] players’ wives. He literally said, ‘They sit there, they don’t cause any problems, and they look pretty.'”

But she says she didn’t let that discourage her. Instead, she asked herself a question that sparked a fire inside of her.

She questioned:

“Why am I not allowed to have a passion and a dream and a voice?”

It’s that question, she says, that has motivated her to prove herself and change the conversation.

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